How do I encourage my 17 year old son to get a job?

Question

He is being a complete bum, he graduated a year early and he just turned 17 in april so now he thinks he has a year of free time. He says he will move out the month that he turns 18 but until then he can stay here doing what he wants. He's not doing drugs that I know of, he's just being a lazy bum. He sleeps til 5-6 in the afternoon, he stays up all night, he never leaves the house, i think the last time he left was in may to finish homeschooling. He has his friends over everyday (they are all 20 and over) and they stay here all day when im not here doing lord knows what. He doesn't want to go to college and says that he can stay here til hes 18 and thats what he plans to do. I told him he can move out whenever he wants but he says no he will wait! How can I encourage him to actually do something, get a job, a girl, or atleast go outside once in a while for god sakes!

Answer 1

stop feeding him. cook all the things he hates.

tell him he Can't stay there till hes 18.

Answer 2

don't give him any money, don't do their chores and stuff like that, don't give him a car, money for video games, etc... that's what my mom did and it worked. If you let him drive then you should take that priveledge away because he is not paying for gas or insurance.  Or if he wants a car tell him that you will help him get a car if he gets a job and at least pay the gas, insurance, or monthly payments or a combination of those three. It will make him get a job

Answer 3

How long has he been running your house? Put your foot down, and let him know the free ride is over.

Answer 4

thats easy. stop supporting him. im very social though so when my parents told me they wouldnt pay for me to go out it was my only option. i also had to get a job to pay for my own car. so if its video games or whatever dont pay for it. and if you tell him his friends cant come to your house while you arent there then he has to leave the house. it may not be a job but hes not sitting in the house.

Answer 5

Hate to say it Mom,  but you are enabling him to be a lazy bum!  He needs to tow the line and at least do chores around the house.  Your the parent,  it's your house,  don't allow all those kids in when your not there.  He will still be there when he's 30 as he has had no motivation to do anything with his life.  Good luck and get a back bone and deal with your son before it gets worse!

Answer 6

TELL HIM ITS EITHER YOU GET A JOB OR WEN YOU TURN 18 YOU HAVE TO MOVE OUT!!

Answer 7

You surely have no control about what goes on in your own home, do you?  And your son seems to run you and tells you what to do.

Not in my house... it wouldn't happen.

When we are grown ups and live in someone else's home, we need to take some sort of responsibility.  Your son can clean the house, do his own laundry, get the yard work done and everything which needs done around that house, since he's not working.  If it were me, and he were my son, it would be my way or he'd have to hit the highway.  

I'm not kidding.

Answer 8

ask him how r u going to move out if u dont have a job

my brother is the same way hes 18 and my mom and dad kicked him out now hes on the streets and also u can tell him not to have his friends over so then maybe he`ll want to leave just dont kick him out with no where to go