How do I end things with my friends with benefits?

Question

I've been trying to end things with my fwb. He doesn't call when he says he will and I make plans but then he doesn't show up or call me back. Its happened a few times in the past few days and I'm tired of it. I'm also tired of not being in a relationship. I want someone who actually cares about me. My fwb says he does but I think its a load of c*@p because he won't even ask me to be his girlfriend and he won't hang out with me unless were having s*x. When I called to end it he made it seem like it was fine but then he called me like an hour later saying I was over reacting and that he wanted to come see me. He gave me a bunch of excuses, he did just get back into town, but he could have called to let me know he was changing his plans. I like for people to do what they say their going to do and not to go back on their words. I'm sick of this and I want to end it but I don't know how because he just keeps calling me and txting me when I end it giving me reasons untill I take him back. He said he would call me today. I txted him. Now I've heard nothing once more. This is stupid and I need to end it now.

Answer 1

Let him go, your better than that! Stop making it easy for him stand up for yourself! You can do it. Good Luck :)

Answer 2

haha i know exactly what you're going thru beacuse im the guy in ur situation, hes jus using you for s*x, and he probaly has no intetnion of asking you out so jus tell him straight up ur done and u wanna be freinds, but even if that happends if he has some control over you which i know i do over my fwb lol then ull jus end up gettin hurt in the end and start likin him again.  

Answer 3

just say hey i wanted this to work but i need to be treated better lets just be friends.its easy and to the point.

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Answer 4

Sweetie - sounds like you are really into this guy and can't handle that he is not into you. as such there is nothing to end... I used to have this situation with a guy and despite that feeling like you need to have some closure what you are looking for is a reaction from him.  Men are stupid - just stop calling him, stop texting him, stop making plans with him.  Don't call him up or text him or email him to end the thing, just be unavailable.  If you need to, write him a long letter telling him how you feel and that it's over, and just never post it.  But either way he will either start to realise you're not there at his beck and call, and will start to do the running, in which case you never know maybe you can forge a relationship, or if he doesn't then at least you will have left it so that in time you can be friends. If you have the chance to date someone else do it, but if he calls make some excuse why you can't see him, or see him, but make an excuse why you can't have s*x with him.  He'll get the idea soon enough.  It's the hardest advice to follow, but please believe me it works.  It took me six months, but I ended up living with my guy :)  At times it felt like I was rippng my own heart out, and he would never come round, but he did, and he liked that I didn't make drama, just let him know that if he wanted me he had to step up and if he didn't I was such a nice girl as to be friends and he hated the thought of being friends with me and seeing me with someone else.  Good luck :)

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Answer 5

ok, so here's what you do, when he doesn't call you, you call him and tell him that your finished, right?  then he calls you back, right?  so here's what you do, don't call him and say its over, just walk away and don't let him come back to you.  all he wants is ex anyways and doesn't want to lose that from you.  so from now on, if he calls, DON'T call him back, if he comes over tell him your busy, find someone who appreciates your company and doesn't just want s*x from you, you know your better that that, blow him off!  don't respond and walk away.  better things are aiting for you!

Answer 6

just tell him how u feel, let him  know that you are tired of just s*x and you want the whole package and if he's willing to give you that then you will stay if not then as your friend he should understand you have needs too and he cant provide them so you need to end the s*x with him and try with someone else. But if he doesnt let u go its maybe cuz he likes u? so then he should be up for being with you if not then tell him thats how u feel and he has to accept it.  

Answer 7

BIte his dic* off

Answer 8

It sounds like he isnt going to listen or anything, things it sounds like you've tried. I don't no if you see him due to a certain obligation (such as school), but if not it might b best to ignore his texts and calls and then mayb he will actually talk and quit treating you like sh*t. If not, then you should move on and just not talk to him. He will get tired of u ignoring his calls and texts and stop bugging u.

Answer 9

I'm in the same boat but with a really bad boyfriend. Well your not going to end it until you find someone else to start something with. It's really sad how we need someone else to get over that person but hey it's how it roll. You really don't know if he has someone special already. He probably has a girlfriend. And he can't be that way with you. You got emotions and emotions is the strongest thing in a woman's body. Your going to answer his calls. It's the truth your going to want to pick up that phone. So at this moment. Think what will you do to stop talking to him. How will you go day by day without talking to him. I mean s*x is very good. And once that is received then it's hard to get over someone. I wish I can take my own advice.  You can't be his friend cause you have emotions. If your fed up tell him are we going to move on from friends with benefits or will it just stay that way cause I want someone to love me not just to **** me. I hope I helped.

Answer 10

say you want to be more than fwb's

they run every time