How do I explain this to her?

Question

When I was about 7-8 years old I got Testicular Torsion. For the people who don't know what it is. Its when the spermatic cord that provides the blood supply to a t******e is twisted, cutting off the blood supply. Sometimes you might lose your t******e. We caught it soon enough so I didn't lose it.

Now I am 17 and I have been dating this girl for some time now. We are planing to have s*x for the first time as a couple (but we both are not virgins). I have 2 scars that are noticeable on my bladder area. Ive never told a girl that this has happen to me. So i was wondering how can i tell her?

Thanks for the Help.

Answer 1

Just be yourself and  be confident. Women don't like weak men. Just be nice about it and explain yaself.

Answer 2

search yahoo google  

Answer 3

Tell her that you had a hernia because you want to well you know...but if ya ever get married to her I would tell her the truth

Answer 4

If ya'll are planning on having s*x this girl must mean something to you and vise versa. Your not gonna scare her by a couple of scars. just sit her down and tell her about it. Im sure it wont bother her at all. good l**k.

Answer 5

exactly how you told us.

theres no easy way to sugar coat it. if she asks tell her. if she doesnt ask dont tell her.  

Answer 6

Tell her exactly what you told us.

She probably won't think anything of it at all.

Any girl that would care about such a thing probably isn't worth keeping anyway.

Answer 7

your call. The truth if your out of school and not worried about rumours spreading. The lie, you had gall bladder surgery. A minor tissue repair.

Answer 8

well if she really likes you like you think she does then yeah go for it!

Answer 9

Presumably if you can talk about having s*x, you should be able to tell her about these scars. Just tell her you want to talk her about an operation that you had which left a few scars. You can say you wanted to tell her about them before the naked part in order not startle her. Who knows - she might want to investigate the scars for herself (girls like scars)!

My two cents - make sure you protect yourself and your partner. Wrap it up!

Answer 10

I'd tell her exactly what you said in the first paragraph.

If you've been dating her for some time I'm sure she won't be insensitive about it.

Answer 11

If she loves you she'll understand :) Tell her she'll be ok.  

Answer 12

I have always accepted men as they are, ever since I was a teen. She probably won't even notice, but if she does, just explain what happened to you. The only time I ever questioned a man about his privates was when he had one t******e. He told me the other one never descended, and I said, "okay." I think you are worrying too much. Just be honest if she asks questions.

Answer 13

If she loves you then it shouldn't be a big issue :). Just tell her when you guys are planning, I'm sure that she'll take it okay ^^

Answer 14

just tell her what u said there...

When I was about 7-8 years old I got Testicular Torsion. Its when the spermatic cord that provides the blood supply to a t******e is twisted, cutting off the blood supply. Sometimes you might lose your t******e. We caught it soon enough so I didn't lose it.

Answer 15

As you're experienced you've seemingly already told at least one person.

I'd keep it simple and matter of fact,when it looks like things are starting just say something like"I have a couple of scars you may see"

and explain.

Don't wait untill things are at full pace,but don't mention it over the desert if you know what I mean.

If you're honest it's no biggie she may have scars herself.

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 16

Tell her the truth.  

Answer 17

Just flat out tell her, next time the conversation turns to things of a sexual nature just say, hey by the way when that time comes, you may want to know I have a couple scars down there from when i was younger etc etc Any woman worth keeping won't let such a small thing faze her.

Answer 18

look my thing is that if you are ready to marry this girl  then u tell her not unless she is gonna ask you a question but other then at you tell her if she feels the way about you go ahead best of luck  

Answer 19

If she really cares about you, then she will most definitely understand and it won't bother her a bit.

Answer 20

if you guys are serious enough with each other to have s*x, she will except it. and if she doesn't, she's not even worth it. it can be a test for her.

an easy test.. because if she doesn't except it then she is too immature to be having s*x in the first place.

Answer 21

You know what? You don't have to tell her... ! But if you really want to explain what happen, just say hey... when i was about 7-8 I had Testicular Torsion and had surgery but everything is fine now! You can tell her before or after s*x, doesn't really matter... but I would NOT tell her when you are in the heat of the moment and your clothes are off... lol thats sillY! Don't be ashamed of things like that, girls will not think anything of it, we like it when ya'll are honest with us, and kind of vulnerable =)

Who knows... maybe she has some secret surgery that she hasnt told you about!

So dont worry, everything will be fine!

Have fun, and USE protectioN!! =)

Answer 22

More importantly I hope you will discuss birth control and prevention of STD's i.e pills and condoms. p.s. hope she isn't too much younger than you i.e. hope shes legal.

Answer 23

first of all... WAIT TILL YOUR MARRIED!!!!!!!! that annoys that c**p outta me that people just go around having s*x.

anyways...

if you dont listen to my first part of this message, then heres this...

she will understand your scars. its not a bid deal. and its not something you can control.

Answer 24

honesty is always the best.. if she's not superficial and really likes you it won't matter.. if she is and it bothers her.. in my opinion i woulld stop seeing her.

Answer 25

Assuming she notices, tell her exactly the way you told us here in Y!A. She may feel a little embarrassed by you mentioning your testicles, but then again, you have been together for awhile.

Torsions are not uncommon, and nothing to be particularly shy about mentioning if you can communicate well with each other.

  Your real concern, naturally, is that when you make love for the first time, you take the proper precautions against pregnancy. A torsion may have cut down on your sperm count, but it only takes one determined swimmer...

Answer 26

If she is with you for who you are then she should understand just explain it to her .... her reaction should show you how she truly feels about you.  

Answer 27

just tell her that u got a scar around ur bladder area.