How do I explain this to my boyfriend?

Question

Since none of you guys know me, it's a lot easier to just ask. So thanks if you answer.

I was secretly "emo" during my middle school years. I hid my cuts, burns, etc. under long sleeves and sweatshirts. None of my friends noticed because I was careful not to have any cuts showing. I wore wristbands and watches and stuff to cover them up when I wore short sleeves.

My boyfriend and I were just sitting and talking. He took my hand and noticed the scars on my wrist. He asked me about them, and I said they were nothing to worry about. I immediately changed the subject, and we went out to eat. Before he went home, he told me that we had to talk about it some time soon.

What do I tell him?

I don't want him to look at me differently or anything.

Answer 1

i can tell his a bit worried, he wants to talk about cause maybe he thinks your depressed or suicidal. talk to him he is worried tell him it happened years ago and that your fine now (I hope your ok) and a real boyfriend will NEVER EVER think of you differently or anything negative.

Answer 2

Swear him u aren't an emo now but in the past, u were a lil bit stupid. Everyone has something in their past which they don't like in the present, you know.

Answer 3

hello my fren frm my experience if the guy love or like u the way u like him he will certainly will understand....because a good lover knw that past is past thre is no point talking about that.so u better tell him..........i gt experinced in ths matter ..because i gt a big scar in my face and i earing,,but nw a girl love jst thge way i am,,,,,,,znd i have change 4 her nw,,,bt my scar is always there,,,,so tell him,,,,and dicuss about the scar in ur arm tell him the truth

Answer 4

well i dont know how old you are now. but if it was in middle school you can tell him it was a phase you went through and you are passed it now.  

Answer 5

Sweetie, he LOVES you. By the way, you weren't so secret about that arm of yours to me.  I saw it all the time. Luckily, I can keep my trap shut. I'm not going to tell him anything. But I really think you should tell him the whole story. He accepts you just that way you are. He's been in love with you since he saw you last year at the school carnival. He remembers what you wore that night and a lot more. So do you think he'll care. He's worried. and That's all.  

Answer 6

Just tell him the truth.

Obviously you were going through some hard times back then. If he's the kind of person who's worth dating, he won't think any less of you for it.

Answer 7

If he really is a good boyfriend, he shouldn't judge you one way or another, besides, this whole "emo" trend seems to be in your past so just tell him about it, and just say that you aren't like that anymore

Answer 8

Anna...He need not know as that is your business and not relevant. I know  you mean well and want to let it all out but, as  you get older, you'll discover that sometimes in life it is best to not do so.

Does every woman tell her husband about every guy she ever knew? No. Why not? Because it could only do harm and it is info that is not important anymore.

If he looks at your scars tell him that you were accident prone and finally worked it out--if he asks. Say no more.

As someone who is older than you, I can say that the one thing I learned is that some secrets are best left alone. It is my belief that you can never get in trouble with your mouth shut.