How do I explain to my parents that they are being totally unfair to me!?

Question

I have a younger brother who is 13, he is blond with curly hair and blue eyes and such an angel to everyone.

I am the oldest of 3 (I have a younger sister who is 15)

My brother gets me in trouble with my parents all the time. Our father totally spoils him and he gets away with things I would never get away with (not even when I was his age)

He never hits him either while I get hit pretty much all the time. I get punished for everything and on top of that I get in trouble for him.

I bet this has something to do with the way we look. I have olive skin and dark hair and eyes and I don't look all that angelic.

My sister agrees with me. She doesn't get hit either because she is dad's little princess, but she is actually on my side so I don't have a problem with her. Sometimes I feel like she is the only one who actually loves me for real.

I don't know what to do with my brother. I tried different things, like beating him up (man, did that get me a beating from dad), talking to him nicely, begging him to just give me a break...

He is like a n**i soldier for dad, always tells on me even if i haven't done anything wrong, he just enjoys seeing me get in trouble. (and dad never questions him)

I even talked to mom and dad about it, but they are like I am the oldest and I have to set an example for my younger siblings and what doesn't kill me it will only make me stronger, blah, blah...

I am kind of used to being hit and ''spanked'' (it isn't really spanking anymore, but beating) - but I do hate being the only one who gets it. I am not about to start whining about this - but I do feel my parents don't love me as much as they love my brother and sister.

Is that even possible?

(I am 16)

Answer 1

u got two years to get out of your house or better yet divorce your parents you really can do that.

Answer 2

weird....i am really freaked out....same thing happened to me in my life...i am grown now....my youngest sibling and i were always on the same team....now we all are...look... sometime those middle kids try so much for acceptance from their parents so please dont take that personally.....they will see and get it....stay strong you know what is happeneing to you is not right and you are the better person for it....i am so sorry this is happening and so freaked out.....sometimes you feel like you are the only one out there but just rest assured that you are not........(ps...it is my mom that was that way...i always felt that way too..as far as her loving my bro and sis more..... and you have no idea how much my mom still affects me in a negative way.....she just manipulates instead of physically abuses now...so also...watch out for that in your adult years....) I dont know... i will be praying for you

Answer 3

It's almost like maybe you aren't really your "dads" kid and he resents you for it.  Maybe your mom lets it happen because she feels guilty about her dirty little secret and resents you too.

Answer 4

wow. ur dad is such a favoritist (or whatever that word is). he obviously favors your siblings. what about ur mom? go complain to your mom and if she doesn't listen, have a long talk with your dad. tell him how you feel and how it's ruining your life. and also, aren't those beatings considered child abuse?