How do I figure out if I even have a chance? please help me. :c?

Question

My friend just broke up with his girlfriend today. Last week he went to go meet someone from on here that he's been talking to for a long time, and they seem to have liked each other. Now him and his girlfriend just broke up for unrelated reasons, and he wants to go out with this girl. He likes her, but doesn't want to tell her because he's afraid of the rejection. This whole time, I'm helping him out and giving him advice, while I actually like him, and for the same reason, won't tell him because i'm afraid of that "no." I told him that he should at least ask her if she feels the same way otherwise he'll regret never knowing. But then I won't follow my own advice. I know this is full of bawww and fail, but I want him to be happy, but I want him too? ]: What would you do? Should I tell him I like him, despite the circumstances, or wait and see if this girl says no to him or whatever?

Answer 1

I'm sure he appreciates your friendship and the help you've given him but if he's interested in this other girl, he obviously isn't interested in you in the same way.  You can't make him feel for you what he just doesn't feel.......whether there another girl in the picture or not.  If this girl says no to him, that doesn't mean the door will be open for you.  You're going to have to decide if you're willing to just remain his friend, but if you really like him, you're going to find it very difficult to do that.  Sometimes it's easier (although it can feel harder at the time) to just let them go and do their own thing.  Each day you waste waiting and hoping he will change his mind and want to be with you is a day you never get back.  I think you should forget him, move on, and find someone who will willingly want to return the feelings you have for him.

Answer 2

When I was in 6th grade, I had a crush on a boy. I was too shy to tell him and that crush lasted till 12th grade. I went through my life and married, had kids, got divorced, but in all that time I had really wished I had said somehing to him. 20 years later, I found his profile online and wound up the courage to tell him. It didn't do anything and he stopped talking to me but I was able to finally say I told him. I wished I had told him 20 years ago when I had a possible chance but when I did tell him, even though I knew I didn't have a chance, there was a weight lifted. The weight will be on your shoulders if you don't tell him. Even if he tells you he doesn't like you back, at least you will be sure about it and you can go on to be friends. Don't let it eat you up upside, for 20 years like I did. It sounds silly, I know, but I needed to tell him no matter how silly it sounded, 20 years later..LOL.  

Answer 3

First step: Stop hearing about this other girl and stop giving him advice. As long as you do that, he will consider you a "sister" and only be shocked that your feelings are more than that. After that, realize that a "no" is not the end of your life, there are plenty of other guys on the planet, it only means you don't meet some pre-determined preferences he formed years ago, and it's not about your worth. So after the "sister" thing has been ended, flirt with him and see if he responds. If he doesn't and seems uninterested, you don't have to put yourself out there. If he does, take it from there. I don't think heavy declarations of love are a good idea unless you've tested the waters a little.