How do I find my sister that was put up for adoption?

Question

I'm 15. I found out my mom had a daughter when she was 19 but couldnt take care of her. How do I find? Don't advise against it.

Answer 1

Google her full name?

Answer 2

Possum gave some great information.  

Some states also have birth indexes.  Once you have the birth date and place, you can see if you can match her in a birth index. If your sister was born in one of the states with a birth index, you may be able to locate her that way.  You search for the girls born on the day and in the county in which your sister was born.  Because many of the birth index listings will list adopted persons by their adopted information, all of the girls born on the same day and in the same county as your sister are potential matches for her.  

These birth indexes are available online at Ancestry.com.  Since you are 15, you probably don't have a credit card to sign up for the free two week trial.  However, many libraries have Ancestry.com accounts on their computers.  Check with your local library to see.

If you find a match, you can then search for her via public records, or even on social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook.  I found my sister using the birth index for California, then located her on MySpace.  We were separated by adoption for over 30 years.

Just a side note:  Another poster stated that most adopted citizens would advise you against searching based on another question.  The other question was an entirely different scenario. It had to do with an adoptive mom wanting to help orchestrate a reunion with the first mother when the daughter clearly stated she didn't want the reunion.  The adoptive mother, however, was not one of the parties separated by adoption.  She was doing something on behalf of another person.  In your case, however, both you and your sister are the affected, separated parties.  Your search for your sister would be on your own behalf.  

  

Answer 3

you cant hun  not till she is 18  

Answer 4

my sis hired a PI to find our mom and he found her even though she had changed her full name a few years before!!    I would go that route!

Answer 5

You will need to know birthdate, birth location (city,state, hospital) and any other information your mom may have.  The more info you have the better the chances of finding your sister.  

Answer 6

You'll need to get the birth info from your mum - like - place of birth - date of birth - hospital born - adoption agency used - as much info as you can get.

Here are the usual searching hints I put out to adoptees for starters -

First - add your details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

Check for information on your state records here -

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

Check here for search help - and links to search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

And check here for any support - it's the best online forum for adoptees I've found -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/

All the very best with your search.

Answer 7

well being that you know who the mother is already, that can work in your favor just for starters. if possible, that is if your mom or someone is willing to talk about it, find out as to what hospital the baby was born, city, state, county, and date. then you can contact your state's records department. also if possible, find out if the adoption was done privately (possibly through a lawyer) or done through an agency. then contact them. state who you are, what relation you are to the baby, and go from there.

good luck!

Answer 8

Most adoptees on here will tell you that you should not search for her that it should be up to her.  An Adoptive Mom just recently posted about searching for her daughter's birthmom and almost everyone said that it is the adoptee child who should of searched.  It is her right.  So even though you know about her, she may not want to search for her birthfamily right now and it might cause an issue.