How do I find the strength to get through this?

Question

I've been dating a man for a little over a year. I truly love him, we have a great time together. But a few months ago an ex of his came to me and warned me that he had stolen her identity and used her for $30,000, and ruined her credit. She claimed he did it to his own sister too. I didn't believe it, I thought he'd never do that to me.

About a month ago, he stole one of my credit cards and ran up $2,000 on it. Ironically, a large chunk of that was to take me on a nice vacation. He swears he's going to pay me back. It upset me, but I still didn't leave him. Today I found out that he put me as a cosigner on a loan for him. I'm in a panic. I love him, I truly truly do! When we have good times, they are SO good. But this is too much. Why would he do this?

We live together, but it's my name on the lease. It would be easier if I could just leave, but I think I have to kick him out. I know he'll try to talk me out of it. What do I do? How do I stay strong?

Answer 1

Leave him.

Why is this such a difficult thing to do?  He's a scumbag.  Why do you love a scumbag?

Answer 2

You need to listen to your head in this situation, not your heart.  He Will ruin your life.  End the relationship, and take him to court.  He will destroy your identity.  Love makes us act foolish, and you are the second known person he's done this to.  Don't be the one to let him continue.  If he loves you, he wouldn't do it.  I'm sorry, but he is a con who is only using you.  Get out now before he does more, and prosecute.

Answer 3

con artist - get rid of him immediately - or all will be lost. Love will turn to hate; ask the ex.