How do I gain confidence in my appearence?

Question

I've tried to find something nice looking about me. I tried listening to the people that tell me I'm good looking but I really know I'm not. I've been called "s**y" "good looking", and have had some female attention in the past, but that doesn't help much because I end up getting really shy and end up thinking they're either blind or need sever help. I think my lack of confidence is the reason I'm not very sociable these days, because I never used to feel like this. I've also felt like I've gotten uglier over time. When I look at a photo of myself when I was 11/12, I don't think I look ugly at all, however if I look at a more recent photo, I just think I look ugly (i'm 17 now btw). What's wrong with me? What makes me believe that I looked so much better when I was younger? Is it possible for a good lookin kid to turn into an ugly teenager?

Answer 1

  You're just suffering from low self esteem, but no worries, everyone has an attack of feeling not their best.  It's from havoc of having to be this and that all the time, so there's nothing wrong with you...blame it on the media for publicizing people in the magazines who are so perfectly primped and pretty but totally fake... Anyways, the reason for why you see yourself looking better when you were younger was probably because you're stuck in the past.  You miss the days when there was not a care in the world.  The answer to your last question is OF COURSE, just because you looked good as a kid doesn't mean you'll turn good as a teenager...it's a matter of taking proper care of yourself; remember the ugly duckling? ugly while young, beautiful as it became older, the same can go for a good looking person turning into a, well, not so good looking one.  It's in a matter of growth, wait a while, be patient, because 10 years from now, you'll be going, man I looked good as a teenager, I can't believe I spent all those years cowering my face and telling myself I was ugly.  ;) Believe me, you're BEAUTIFUL just the way you are, don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.  =) And, chances are, if you were called good looking by someone, you are.

Answer 2

It's all a process we go through. We're "cute" as kids, then we change into awkward kids and "dumb" teenagers c/w "zits", blackheads, etc, and then all of a sudden, almost overnight - we change again..

I can appreciate what you're going through and your thoughts...

Don't be too hard on yourself...

I made another change in my appearance many years ago through my own desires, and have never regretted it, and I'm not even remotely advocating this...

I became a c/d - t/v and changed dramatically  - again by my own choice..   And all of this is another story.

But  appreciate who and what you are, and you'll soon find good things happening to you..

Good luck..

Regards,

Rachelle In High Heels

Answer 3

how bout a picture?

Answer 4

sounds like body dimorphic disorder or maybe you really did get homely