How do I get counseling for my children when my ex-wife refuses?

Question

our parenting plan states we have to agree on non-emergency health care for our children. I suspect her and her boyfriend are mentaly abusing the children so she wont agree on counseling. The courts have been no help. Any Suggestions?

Answer 1

They may well need more intensive counseling than the schools can provide, but you can start with the school counselor, who has no medical credentials whatsoever.

Then it's not medical care. You could in fact even ask their teachers to make the referral to the school counselor.  That will get them in the door. Then, if they refer them to a more experienced counselor or therapeutic setting, your ex will have to go on record as refusing them counseling or therapy. Then they still might be able to see the school counselor.

It's one way to force the issue. ;-)

Answer 2

The courts wont help you probably because you have no real proof of abuse. Emotional/verbal abuse is the hardest kind to prove in court. Get child services involved if you feel strongly that your ex is abusing them but without any real proof, they wont investigate a second time so please be sure you know exactly what youre doing and dont just go by what the kids are saying either because kids have been known to start trouble just because they didnt get their way. Be plenty careful here

Answer 3

Get a Gaurdian Ad Liteum (sp maybe?) for your children. This persons job is to asses the situation in the home, both of them, and come to a decision on what they feel would be best for the children. If you bring this person to court with you after they do their assessment, and the agree with you, then its unlikely you will be ignored, and you are more likely to get what you want for your children.

Answer 4

If you suspect anything happening i would report it to someone. Not knowing where your from but i am suggesting child services just in case anything further happens. Why can you not just take them to counselling. I would take them if i felt necessary then tell the EX after. You have rights also and these are your kids who u are felling for.

JUST DO IT........... GOODLUCK

Answer 5

ask their school counsler for information or if he/she could help out :D hope it gose well, luck to you!

Answer 6

I would think that the non-emergency only clause is because you are both responsible for health care bills. Offer to pay for the therapy completely on your own.

If that doesn't work, you might think about getting Social Services/ Child Welfare involved.  

Answer 7

What is the penalty if you decide on your own?

can you get a doctor to turn it into an "emergency"?

Answer 8

kids are collateral damage when two parents can't agree on what's best for the child.

there's nothjing you can do when you voluntarily give the courts power to decide your life.

Answer 9

can't you take them ,, and if they are abusing those poor children you have to help and get them out of there fast,,

go to the court and tell them ,

you have to protect them at any cost  

Answer 10

so go ahead and do it yourself..the worse thing can happen that she takes you back to court and I don't think a judge will agree with her..counseling is something that the children may need