How do I get more friends..?

Question

I just feel like as for a 14 year old i should have more friends or something. I know and talk to people at school, like i guess i could consider them my friends, but they are JUST my school friends, i usually dont see them any other time. Im just afraid of rejection or shy to ask someone over idk. Its weird cause im so comfortable at summer camo but when im back in my hometown, it just seems like i lock up and dont know what to say when i meet new people for the first time. It just seems really awkward, and i dont want to come off as weird or whatever. It just feels like im the only one with this problem. I just wish i was more confident in myself and appearence, but it cant just happen like THAT. Oh and i really hate when people tell me im quiet! It translates to me as being anti-social. Im not anti-social, in fact some people would tell me im a crazy, wild person(depending on where i am of course..)

Answer 1

OMG I'm like the exact same and I hate when people tell me I'm quiet or ask if I talk !! I'm like I ain't no toddler !!! It's annoying and actually the only reason I'm quiet around them is because I don't like most of them or I don't feel comfortable around them, cuz most of my 'friends' talk about me and it's not like I'm mean or anything bitchy like that its juts almost everyone in that grade has a problem w/ me and is crazy lol and I'm nice too ! But anyways they think I don't know about them talking about me but I do I just keep my mouth shut and kinda act fake too so they can see what its like when my plan becomes affective which is when we graduate and go to high school [9 more months], cuz if they continue which they probably will, Imma ditch them and talk to my other friends that are going to the high school with us cuz I can't stand it, they're pretty much the reason for my low confidence. [I have the same problem as you] But that's probably why people talk about me cuz they see me as an easy target which will hopefully change this year. Anyways I kinda don't have an answer for you just tryna tell you that you're not the only one and plus I'm still tryna figure out getting more friends myself. Some things that could help is just be yourself, be friendly, join sports or activities, and talk to people you find interesting. If you do come across friends make sure they're real cuz you don't want to end up getting hurt, it really sucks.

Best of luck to you ! =]

Answer 2

im like that too! it drives me sooooo crazy when people tell me that!!!!! and with other friends they will tell me im crazy or things like that. but trust me there are plenty of other people like that out there. dont feel like your the only one with that problem. i actually go to counseling and it really helps me with what to say to people and what to do. i try to at first just say hi. then that lets people know that your open for conversation. and i always keep in mind 5 topics incase there is an akward silence. you could join different activities at school. for me i joined the band. its been really akward for me since im in the honors band and i have to get to know the people that are older than me. i have to like think ahead of what im gonna say to them and i have to put myself i thier mind to know what older kids like to talk about. if people dont like you for who you are then they arent worth your time.if you try to be someone else then you could start to feel even worse then what you do now. just be yourself and stay true to who you are!! good luck!!!! i bet you'll do just fine and just remember you wont be like this forever you will eventually grow out of it!!

Answer 3

be a nice person