How do I get motivated to change my life?

Question

The pattern of my life is...,

I go to work, while at work I do lots of thinking about how I wish I was at home because I have lots of stuff I should be doing like.., cleaning, paying bills, planning out meals, budgeting for various expenses, calling up my school, calling a dentist, the list goes on.

the second part of my day is come home, hop on my computer and forget everything I told myself I was going to do while I was at work.

I hate my job and want to get out of there but I need to go to school among other things if I ever want to accomplish this.

Advice that includes "just do it" won't help..., I tell my self that bs at work and come home to doing nothing like a bum..., why do I do this?

Answer 1

If you´d perhaps adopt some of this:

I like to observe life "above" those small insignificant daily things that I only see as a challenge to live orderly and successfully.

  

"Solving problems" is a part of my positive attitude towards life. Doing it "one at the time" makes me really positive.



Instead of creating "pseudo-drama" I approach each issue seriously, one at the time and see what I can do to solve it.



With time, I become a person "in control" of things instead of some-one paralyzed in front of a smallest daily task.

Answer 2

Try a few sessions of hypnosis.  Tell the hypnotist what your goals are and have them reinforced in the session.

Use guided imagery.  Visualize yourself doing the things that you want to do.

Offer yourself rewards.   When X is done, then you get some computer time.

Force the change.  Turn off your network access.   If you want computer time, then you have to go OUT of the house to get it, and possibly pay for a connection.   You will still get some computer time, but there will be practical limits to how much.

Answer 3

You need to focus, when you get home try to remember what you said that you were going to do while you were at work. Also write a list of things to do and when you get home, take out your list. Also since you like to get on the computer, try taking on-line classes.  

Answer 4

get a wife and she will change your life ,

Answer 5

I do that too sometimes. I totally space out the things I should do when I get home.

You should make a list while you are work. Carry a small notebook, and when you think about the things you need to be doing, write it down. When you get home, do all that you can on the list before doing anything else. Check off each item as you go.

When you complete all that is possible, then treat yourself to get on the computer, take a nap, watch tv etc.

You will feel better that you made yourself do the important things first.

I know at first it will be hard, but the only way to accomplish it, is if you force yourself, then you will eventually start to like how you feel after you get things taken care of.

Good luck. :)

Answer 6

first right out a list of what you need to do, then make several small lists, take the first small list and put it on your computer vowing to do that list before turning on the computer.

and while you hate words like "just do it" if you do a little each day it will get done and you won't feel over whelmed.