How do I get my boyfriend (babies father) to move out?

Question

OK so I've been with this guy for 2 years too many. Most of our relationship has been him in jail. We recently had our first child who is now 4 months old. My problem is he's a JERK! He hasn't made an effort to find a job nor has he made an effort to stop drinking. He's EXTREMELY OBSESSIVE and can be violent at times. I've told him that the two of us aren't working out and that he should leave. His response is "I'm never going to leave" I'm no longer interested in him, I can't stand being in the same bed with him let alone live with him. He's like a light switch one minute he's an angel the next he's satan's son. What should I do?

Answer 1

Call your local domestic violence shelter and ask for advice. It doesn't matter if he is physically abuse (I hope), he is emotionally and verbally abusive and one can lead to another if you try to leave. They will offer you shelter and advice.  Good Luck

Answer 2

You have to file for eviction to get him out if he refuses to leave.  I would also document all the things that he's doing in case you need to also get a Restraining Order (Order of Protection or Domestic Injunction).  It's called different things in different jurisdictions.  If you are just renting - you could just find yourself a new place and leave him there.  

Answer 3

Are you on a lease or do you own the home? As long as there was no lease this process is simple but can take some time.

You need to get an eviction notice; which you can find at places like Office Depot. You need to mail the eviction notice to your residence to him. Make sure that you certify the letter and insure it at the post office. Keep the reciept from the post office and the copy of the eviction notice. Make sure that it will be delivered to him when he will be home, he will have to sign for it.

If that does not work, then you will need to publish a small ad in the classifieds of a local newspaper. Make sure that the ad says " ________(his first and last name, middle int. or name if possible), you need to contact _______________(your first and last name, and middle int. or name) immediately concerning you residence at _____________(whatever the full address is).

You also have the option to hire a company that delievers letters to people; not the post office. Make sure that the individual and company are licensed and bonded with the state that you live in to be able to serve him with the papers at your residence or at his work; IMPORTANT: Licensed and Bonded.

Whatever you do, do not go to his work directly or hand him the eviction notice with it being mailed. You need to protect yourself, because if he is a jerk then he will lawyer up. If you do end up going to court make sure that you have a copy of everything, especially if you do an ad in the paper

Answer 4

get a restraining order.   leave him for the babies sake.

Answer 5

You have a restraining order against him?  He's violating the restraining order by being there--call the police. And then don’t bail him out of jail.

Answer 6

My best advice to you is to WAKE UP.  You are allowing the problem to continue. Don't complain about him being around but not take the steps to get away from him or him away from you. You just said it yourself.  You have a restraining order against him, so why is it that he is living with you. It just doesn't add up sweetheart. You need to think about your baby also. I have a 4 month old and the first time his daddy even thinks about acting crazy he would come home to find his clothes and stuff waiting for him on the sidewalk and the police there waiting for him to make sure he doesn't try to attack you.  Wait for him to go out with some friends of his and then get all of his things out of your house, or if you have family members or friends who know about the situation, you can see if you can live with them and just walk out on him, with your child.  Don't just let yourself be abused, honey. Remember your baby needs you to be strong as well. I wish you luck.

Answer 7

you move out find a better place but leave when hes not home and dont tell him just leave a note saying if he tries to find you that u will call the cops

Answer 8

Talk to his family maybe they can get  him to move out.  If that dont work call the police.

Answer 9

Go to the court and get a court order to make him leave. have it served to him by the Sheriff so it is legal and there is proof he received it. Then change the locks and leave his stuff on the curb.  

Answer 10

First of all violence is a no no and when you told him to get out and he said that he'll never leave that is a sign of ownership you already have a baby by him you can't raise him and the child I say get a restraining order on him girl i promise it works  

Answer 11

You need to be careful because he sounds a little crazy. Besides you need to worry about the safety of your child. If it gets too out of control then I would suggest calling the police, however, they probably wouldn't be able to do much unless he has harmed you or the baby. You could also suggest to him that he needs to get help, but you may need to help him with that.

Good Luck

Answer 12

It depends.

If you're renting, who's name is on the lease?  If it's your name only, then tell him he needs to leave.  Same deal if you own; if it's your name on the mortgage, then he has no status.

If this is the case, tell him he needs to pay half the mortgage/rent or move out.  Plain and simple.  

Being a jerk is, unfortunately, not against the law.  Nor is being a bum.

However, if he is violent toward you or your baby, call the police IMMEDIATELY.  Get a protective order, which will, in effect, get him out of the house.  

You may want to consult with an attorney (many areas have free or low cost consultations that can help you out).  

Obviously the health and welfare of your baby is paramount.  If he is an unfit father, take appropriate action.

Answer 13

Talk to your mom or other kind of family about this and how they can help you..you dont want to do this by yourself since you said he can be violent sometimes. You don't want to put your baby in any kind of harm in anyway. You and your family need to come up with a plan right away!