How do I get my daughter to be happy about having a new little sister?

Question

I am 6 1/2 months pregnant with a little girl. When we told my 4yr. old daughter that she was going to be a big sister, She got really upset and said that she hates babies. My brothers wife had a baby boy about 3 months ago, and when we brought my daughter Cami to see the new baby, she didnt wanna hold him or play with him. She had no intrest in him at all. Looking back on it, we realized that she never really cared about babies. We put stuffed animals in the new baby's nursery and Cami knocked them down. What can I do to make sure she likes her soon to be new sister? And why is she acting like this?

Answer 1

tell her to get the fck over it cuz THIS IS LIFE AND IT SUCKS

:D jk ummm.... idk im good with little kids but i ont knoe wat u should dew :\

Answer 2

tell her the baby will really look up to her and that she will be really important coz she is the big sister

Answer 3

She probably feel unsafe about all this new situation coming up. She's going to get used to it.

Maybe you could get her a gift from her little sister when the baby comes home. So she won't feel rejected. All the attention is going to be on the new baby (uncles, aunts, friends are going to visit to see the new baby, not her...).

Good luck!

Answer 4

It probably is a bit of jealousy. Try not to make a big deal out of the new baby issue. and try to keep things as normal as possible. Include her in things as much as possible and keep reassuring her that you love her ( kids have been know to think that their parents dont want them anymore and that the new arrival is more important them)

You cannot make her like the baby, but youcan still make her feel just as special without spoiling her. When the new baby comes...why not try giving her a little something and tell her that it is a present from her new little sister. and tell her that big sisters are very important because mummies need their help ,

good luck X and dont worry...she will be fine.

Answer 5

there is a book called "big sister, little sister". I got it for Olivia just before Tori came; she was 3 at the time. Address the fact that things will be different but that she is such a good kid she will be a great big sis and have a play mate.  

Answer 6

She's probably jealous. It's perfectly normal for little kids; she probably worries that you won't have as much time for her, and then there is the issue of her not being the 'baby' in the family any more.

The jealousy will pass, but you could help alleviate her fears by making sure that when the baby comes you spend special time alone with her-perhaps doing some things she thinks are 'grown up' to let her see that being the big sister is something to be looking forward to. If you're buying things for the baby's room, perhaps you could ask her to help you pick things out-and then let her pick out something to put in her own room for being so helpful.

It's a big transition for her. When the baby arrives, you could make an effort to involve her in looking after it, because it will make her feel like she is being a big help and you appreciate her-it doesn't have to be holding the baby, or playing with it, you could just ask her to pass things, or pick out clothes for it to wear until she wants to become more involved.

Answer 7

lol my sister was like it on my birth and my lil brothers birth.

There isnt much you can do  the best thing to  do is keep her informed and try and get her involved with the rest of the pregnancy (show here scan pics,let her feel if baby kicks ect).She may be worying about your health or you not wanting her after the new baby is born just explain that theres plenty of love to  go  around

In time she'll get used to  it -she has no choice, maby when the babies born get her a lil prezzie or summin to distract her a lil -but just dont ever tell her your too tired to  play with her or summin like that because then she'll get annoyed and upset and redirect the anger to the newborn -just be conscious of setting aside time for her.

Answer 8

well if she doesnt lik babies she just has her own reason she will so forget about the whole thing wen she gets a little older. well the good thing is she isnt jealous of the new baby, so u hav nothin to wrry bout ur daughter will come around to the baby a little after the baby is born.

Answer 9

Stop pressuring her to like the baby.  She doesn't have to like her.  She just has to be polite & respectful to her as a member of her family (and as another human being).  

Let them build their relationship from their own real interactions with each other, over time.  It will emerge & be a beautiful thing when it does in a way they both can believe in.  

There could be all kinds of reasons why she's acting like this.  She might, simply, not like babies.  She might be afraid of how her family's going to change.  She might be smart enough to know how babies need extra attention & know that that attention will be taken away from her.  

Try to let her know that this isn't 'mom & dad having a new baby', but is, instead, our family (me & you & dad, kiddo - all three of us) embarking on a new adventure.  

Answer 10

I had an 11 year old and found out i was prego again. talk about age difference.  He wasn't happy either but i learned to talk to him more about it and let him help out with choosing a name.  he asked questions, i answered. i know he was older than your 4 year old but it worked. he's so in love with my daughter now and i know they'll be close one day.  She's so used to be the baby, the one everyone adores and this is normal behavoir.  It's so common and as i learned, it doesn't matter the age.  Take your daughter to the doctors with you. Ask your doc to do an ultrasound and show your daughter in the office what the baby looks like and show her the baby book she has. make her feel like she's a huge part of this process. and buy her  a present  when the baby is born and tell her you're proud of her and how she's such a big girl but yet she's still your baby...

good luck.