How do I get my girlfriend to understand I am going to stay in the reserves for her?

Question

I am going to sign up for the army reserves soon an at first I was goin to go active after I got all my training but I have decided to stay reserves for her because I don't think I want to go active just yet an how do I let her know that its what I want to do

Answer 1

I'm not sure I understand why this is an issue for you to tell her this. She should be happy that you're planning on staying around her. This will give you the opportunity to go to school near her and spend more time with her (while not deployed).

Personally I would suggest that you join the Army National Guard, but Military service nontheless is a great step toward your future. Congratulations and America is Proud of You.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

I suppose telling her flat out is the best way.

Answer 3

i'm not sure that this is something you can change her mind about, unless you can guarantee her 100% that you will never go to war. i'm sorry but this is one thing that men and women wont be able to agree on.. it's pretty much a girl's worst nightmare to see her man go to the military with the possibility that he will be called to war and never come back, come back injured, or come back mentally distant. if my bf left me for war i would die. if she loves you, she might be able to understand, but frankly it's still a very painful thing to do.

examine why you want to do this and see if the military is really the path you want to take. would you be able to leave your gf for war with the possibility of never coming back? or would you be willing to take a job that wouldn't see the battlefield?

Answer 4

simplest way is..

TELL HER

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you feel pressure from her to join the reserves but you really want to go active. Thats why you want her to know you did it for her.

But is that wise? If you really want to go active and you don´t for her.. then you will always resent her for it. Is that really the best thing for you to do for your relationship?

If you want to join the reserves for yourself.. whats to tell her? You did something for yourself..I dont think she´ll be that impressed.

Answer 6

tell her everything will be okay and that its your dream.

and promise her you will come back

Answer 7

um just tell her! DUH!

Answer 8

Just tell her the truth.  Tell her everything and explain yourself.  I think she might appreciate you wanting to stay in the reserves for her.  tell you how much you care, and what not, just be honest, and it will all work out.