How do I get my husband to change his mind about having a baby?

Question

we had it all planed out I started taking clomid and on the last pill he starts acting weird I asked whats wrong and he said YOU I don't want a baby I just said that to make you happy but I don't and wont have one I have been with him 9 years and I just want to leave him over this mess I feel like my dreams are crushed all at once how can a man do that even after I was on the last clomid pill all day I just cry and he wont talk to me about it and I need advice

Answer 1

He's just having the jitters because it's becoming more real to him.

Answer 2

Perhaps you two ought to go to Couples Therapy. Having kids is something you really should have talked about openly and honestly long before you (almost) started trying for kids.

Answer 3

STOP! This is not about you and him, this is about your potential child. He will be a HORRIBLE father and ruin the baby's life, guaranteed. Either respect his edict that he is NOT father material or leave him if a child is that important to you. You cannot change a man's mind about this.

Answer 4

if having a baby is extremely important to you.  meaning it rates as a priority fo you in life.  you need to make a tough move and leave him.   he has made it clear that he wants no baby.  

you can't change his mind

Answer 5

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5P6UU6m3c...

Answer 6

omg i feel bad for you well if he said he wanted to have a baby and he did not fofill what he said he is a real jerk i feelreallyy bad for you just pray and read the basic instructionsbeforer leaving earth book itsreallyy good and solves lots of problems

Answer 7

Sorry, to ask the obvious..but I have to. You guys did talk about kids before marriage, right?? If he has always stated he wanted kids and is just now telling you he doesn't, I am so sorry for him treating you this way!! That isn't fair at all for you to have wasted your time with him, IF children are a priority for you and your life. If a child is definitely for you, then unfortunately you will have to make a terrible sacrifice and leave him. A man who does not want to be a father will not do your child any good! Your child deserves to feel love from every parent, no questions asked! I fear the baby will suffer if you force him into fatherhood. God bless you and good luck!!

Answer 8

talk 2 him calmly explain him how desperate u r 4 the baby.

Answer 9

I really don't know what to say about this, but I would just try talking to him. ask him why he doesn't want a baby and try to hear his feelings for this. I'm sorry that your going through this I just had my second daughter may 16th and before my husband said that it was our last, then after she was born he said maybe we will try later in about 5 years so I got mirena instead of him getting surgey, but my point is he can change his mind if you sit and talk to him and tell him how you feel. I wish you the best of luck.. I think because your getting closer to being preg. than he is acting like this..