How do I get my husband to spend more time with me and less with the computer?

Question

My husband is addicted to this game called World of Warcraft. We work together at Hardee's so the only time I ever get to spend quality time with him is when we work. As soon as he gets off of work he's on the computer ALL NIGHT. He sometimes won't even come to bed. He will just go to work without sleep. I am especially concerned because we have a baby due in two weeks. How can I be sure he will watch the baby while I'm at work?

Answer 1

Move to a cramped studio apartment, accidentally bump into the computer stand and watch it fall on the floor, with any luck it will be broken.

Answer 2

Get rid of the damned computer!

Answer 3

You cannot force him. I suggest you not discuss it with him as he probably already knows how you feel about it. Try and take control of your home and having things the way you want. He obviously is not present even though he is there.  Focus on what you can do to make your own life better in these weeks prior to the baby. Can you pamper yourself? Call some friends? Enjoy these weeks since it is the last time for sleep and privacy . I am sorry I couldnt help you very much  

Answer 4

Put on some s**y lingerie and dance around him! I know its a lot of effort & if it does turn to passion, its sometimes  hardly worth bothering when its over in ten!. BUT..... it gets him away from his childish mode and into "Big Strong Man Super Hero Husband mode". Then tell him how great he was- you might have to lie a bit, cos lets face it-we all know its down hill & minimum effort after marriage-ha! Say to him (in the sweet "im so hard done by"voice) "Please stay & cuddle me honey,five more minutes is all i ask." Cos we all know men love a nice long cuddle-not!                                                                                                                                      But he"ll be doing it to please you-thats what you want-just a morsel of his time(not much to ask when youve been carrying his child for 8 1/2 months-and gotten yourself fat, heavy ,stretched ,achey ,sweating buckets ,swollen ankles ,itchy **** ,sore b***s and god knows what else!) and sorry to say if s*x doesnt work then im all out of answers. A guy who choses Warcraft over s*x is a Loooooser.Ask him to devote some special time together with you before your lil bubby comes along and turns your world as you know it -into sleepless nights galore and crappy nappies in abundance.My baby is eight weeks and god shes so heartful! I ran to her at every slight whimper! Shes gotten used to this & hates to be put down,or go to bed without me- basically- shes playing me like a kipper-i can tell u! He needs to catch up on some sleep now ,or he'll be a useless warcraft addict zombie, when he should be looking after you & babe like a good husband & father should!

Top tip for your giving birth by the way-take the quickest in-and-out breaths that u can-whilst sucking in the gas and air -on the building up & nearing the peak of the contractions.This was my fifth child and i wish someone told me this before now.Using this technique, i can honestly say I enjoyed the hard work of giving birth this time.I hardly made a murmor this time. It wasnt that it was less painful-but that i coped better & felt in control(i lost it giving birth to the others- jumped off the bed & jumped up & down like a maniac,threw up over hubby,wailed in agony etc etc.

                                            Ignore the long deep breaths rubbish-short quick suck & blow techniQue allows the gas to constantly flow in & out-so you dont lose your breath at height of contractions. With the others i was taking long breaths and at the peak of contractions lost the ability to keep this up-hence no gas being sucked-hence complete agony! You may want to do the odd couple of longer deep breaths on the subsiding of the contraction or on the lesser painful & shorter contractions.

                               Also-ask for a rocking chair-the rocking motion helps baby get into position & does wonders for the pain!You can alternate between rocking chair and leaning over the bed.Worked for me! Was last time im giving birth and was truly as smoothe as it shouldve been-hope it helps you as i wish i"d done this with the others.All the best and if u use this method youll be able to stay in control & enjoy it-yes-really enjoy it knowing your calmly bringing your lil one into the world.Avoid pethidine-just makes u sick & unable to stay in control-creating more pain & bad for baby.xbest wishesx

Answer 5

Tell him you feel neglected.  Tell him you feel he is ignoring you.  Tell him he is stressing you out and it is not fair that he is spending most of his time on the computer.  Let him know that you are concerned about this because the baby is coming.  Let him know that you definitely need to know he is going to be there for you.  You need his support now and after the arrival of the baby.  Tell him he really needs to pay attention to you because if he doesn't someone else will.  You may not feel comfortable saying that, so use your discretion.  Hopefully, it won't come to that.   Good luck.

Answer 6

Sit down and have a talk with him!

Let him know that the computer is not everything,

and that family is more important.

Answer 7

“Brain reactions of people who play computer games excessively are similar to those of alcoholics or cannabis addicts.” So says psychologist Ralf Thalemann, leader of an addiction research group at Charité University Hospital, Berlin, Germany. It is thought that stimulation from excessive playing of computer games can cause an increased release of dopamine into a player’s brain, which produces a sensation of well-being that can eventually create an “addiction.” One survey suggested that this may occur in over 10 percent of those who play video games.

Another health issue: Eye problems may result from staring at a screen for great lengths of time. Surveys show that at least a quarter of all computer users experience visual problems. One reason is that the blink rate may slow down, causing dryness and irritation of the eye. Blinking clears the eye, stimulating tear production and washing out contaminants.

Can these games really be addictive? Apparently so, for some players. One youth told Awake!: “All you can think about is getting to the end and winning.” A young man similarly recalls: “I spent hours trying to figure out how to kill everybody and get to the next level of the game.”

You may think that you could never get so caught up in a game. But consider the way TV shows and movies manipulate people’s emotions—moving them to tears, rage, or cheers of excitement. Imagine, then, a program that not only has an exciting plot, unique characters, and dazzling special effects but that lets you be the superhero. Would it be easy to resist getting thoroughly involved in it? So, it is not surprising that some players have difficulty separating fantasy from reality. I read where One youth recalls: “The effect of playing violent games was so bad I even imagined that my hand was a gun and pointed it at people.”

“Exposure to violent video games can desensitize individuals to real-life violence,” say research psychologists at Iowa State University, U.S.A. Previous studies showed that exposure to such games “increases aggressive thoughts, angry feelings, physiological arousal and aggressive behaviors.” This study monitored the heart rate and emotional response of participants to filmed episodes of actual violence shown to them immediately after they had played either violent or nonviolent video games. The results showed that those “who play violent video games habituate or ‘get used to’ all the violence and eventually become physiologically numb to it.”

Violent computer games glorify the use of weapons. They often train the user in the art of war. The magazine The Economist stated: “America’s military is relying more heavily on computer games as training tools. Some games which the military uses are off-the-shelf products.”

True, those who play violent computer games are not doing harm to real people. But what does this choice of entertainment indicate about what may be happening to their hearts? (Matthew 5:21, 22; Luke 6:45) What would you conclude about a person who enjoyed stabbing, shooting, maiming, and killing imaginary people? What if this person spent many hours each week indulging those violent fantasies, becoming almost addicted to such games? At the very least, you would conclude that he was fostering a love of violence, just as a person who watches pornography is cultivating immoral desires.—Matthew 5:27-29.

I hope this helps.  

Answer 8

tell him that you would like it if he spent more time with you and less time with the computer. If he is that bad remind he has a baby coming and that he has to understand that if he doesnt listen then you have to put it in his head somehow