How do I get my husband to stop hurting my feelings about my weight?

Question

My husband loves to exercise and being healthy is one of his top priorities. I'm a little over 200 pounds but in no way am I gross looking. It is a constant battle with him for me to lose weight. NOT a day goes by without him making some comment about what I'm eating or if I have or haven't worked out. I'm getting to the point that I'm so tense around him because I'm dreading the moment he opens his mouth to ask if I worked out or not. I hate this part of him, he controlls all the food that me and my daughters have and I've reached my limit with tolerating it. How do I get him to stop?

Answer 1

If he didn't love you he would be checking out other skinny women rather than wasting his time on you. Don't you want to look good for your husband?? Don't you want people to look at you guys and say what a cute couple when you are walking out together.Please don't take this the wrong way but the truth is ask anyone fat people does not realize they are fat when they look at themselves in the mirror and no one really tells them they are fat except for the person who feels comfortable enough to tell you and it can be non other than your partner. He just wants you to look good for him and what's wrong in that???

And plz don't listen to others and leave your husband thinking there are other good man for you. Well in real world it's hard to find man if you are fat. The reality is even fat man does not want fat women. You are soooooo lucky he loves and his nagging shows how much he really cares. If you may be start trying to loose weight then u'll stop finding him nagging too..

Answer 2

If he didn't love you he would be checking out other skinny women rather than wasting his time on you. Don't you want to look good for your husband?? Don't you want people to look at you guys and say what a cute couple when you are walking out together.Please don't take this the wrong way but the truth is ask anyone fat people does not realize they are fat when they look at themselves in the mirror and no one really tells them they are fat except for the person who feels comfortable enough to tell you and it can be non other than your partner. He just wants you to look good for him and what's wrong in that???

And plz don't listen to others and leave your husband thinking there are other good man for you. Well in real world it's hard to find man if you are fat. The reality is even fat man does not want fat women. You are soooooo lucky he loves and his nagging shows how much he really cares. If you may be start trying to loose weight then u'll stop finding him nagging too..

Answer 3

Your husband should give you room to breath. Being overweight is not healthy, but he doesn't have to keep on reminding you every time you put a piece of food in your mouth. Let him know that this is your body and he needs to support you, to me it sounds like he rather be with a skinny woman. Yes, you'll lose the weight, but in your time, let him know things does not happen over night.

Answer 4

Your husband's got a point. I'm not gonna say stupid stuff like, "You don't give a S**t about your weight!!" because I don't know that for a fact. So just ask these questions to yourself: Am I comfortable with my weight? Do I love my husband unconditionally? And I just want to say that 200 pounds isn't that healthy. >.< ... It's obese. But you're lucky that you're not 500 pounds. So if you feel comfortable with that weight, that's fine. But if your husband is that nasty, he obviously doesn't love you unconditionally. It's either that, or he really cares about you. If he sounds annoyed with you, he might not love you unconditionally. If he sounds concerned, he probably really cares about you, and wants you to be around for a long time.