How do I get my husband to stop playing video games and actually listen to me for a change?

Question

My husband plays video games every night after he gets off of work. He gets home an hour or two before me and sometimes I'll ask him to do things for me before I get home. Sometimes it's putting some clothes up or just emptying the trash. It's never a lot of things and it not every night. Most of the time when I get home from work, he hasn't done anything and I get a little upset at him because I'm tired of him telling me he'll get them done and then he doesn't do it. Sometimes I just do it myself to save some trouble but then that makes HIM angry. Nothing works, crying, yelling, begging, calmly asking him, leaving him alone, nothing. Also the entire time he plays video games he's yelling, cursing, and ignoring everything I say to him. It bothers me when he curses because I'm pregnant and I don't want that type of language used around our children when it's born. I don't care what he says around me but he needs to learn some self control. I have offered to play them with him, but I don't think I can take playing video games for 4 hours every night. Do not suggest s*x because even if it does work, it only teaches him that the only thing that's more important than his games is his sexual desires. I don't know what else there is to do and I'm not going to divorce him. It just makes me feel useless and ignored like I'm unimportant sometimes but he gets mad when I tell him my feelings on the subject. Help?

Answer 1

I think we a married to the same man... JEEZ!  My husband does the same exact things!  It drives me CRAZY!  I have tried everything & have not gotten anywhere.  Sometimes when I make dinner he just lets his sit in the kitchen & get cold!  I think husbands playing video games like this has sadly become a serious problem for couples.  You're not alone!  Good Luck!

Answer 2

I play games and I still take out the trash that takes like 2 mins lol.

I also wash dishes again like 5-10 mins. After that he can get back to saving the world.

Answer 3

  It feels degrading, and insulting that your husband is more into video games than the actual reality that surrounds him. Your wants and needs should be paid attention to. Whats the point of being married if the one you're with ignores you, makes you feel worthless, and will not make a change to improve these feelings. If you are determined not to divorce, then ask him to go to counseling with you. If he gets mad when you try to express your feelings on the subject, then you didn't marry a man, but you did get yourself an immature boy. Its only going to get worse if he won't change when the baby comes. Get professional help. Good Luck

Answer 4

Don't do anything - I really mean, don't do anything in the house for a few days. Don't cook, don't clean, don't buy food, don't iron his clothes and so on. When you come home just sit at the computer, come here and answer questions (or whatever else you would enjoy doing). Hopefully, he will get the message

Answer 5

If he "looses" the power cord....

Answer 6

I know how you feel i've been in your position. I've been married for 2 years now and my husband did nothing but play video games after work and even on the weekends till 2 or 3am at night, i had no attention and as u say he didn't even pay attention to me. Until i gave up telling him about how much it would bother me and stopped arguing about it. He continued to still ignore me until i had enough and i had to make serious decisions. I left him and i moved on with myself cause if a man isn't willing to give you the attention you deserve is cause they stopped looking at you as their wife and they priorities. After a month or s he came back apologising and now i feel like he knows how i felt as i made him the same. But my position was different we don't have any kids and of course I'm not pregnant and i feel like this is the time that he needs to be there for you for support and he isn't doing so well. I know love is hard and men are stubborn but you need to be strong and start paying less attention to him and I'm sure, he'll notice the change and he will start changing eventually. But make sure not to argue about it just let it go when you feel like you need that support call one of your friends or go to a friend/family house to keep your mind off of things. Wish you the best luck!

Answer 7

And you are married to and having babies by this person why? Was this an arranged marriage or a shotgun wedding? Did someone force you? If so, call the police on them, as forcing marriage on someone at gunpoint is illegal.

Answer 8

Wow, you married a little boy.  Who's fault is that exactly?  I think it's YOUR fault.  Now what are you going to do?

Answer 9

You need some serious marriage counselling and he obviously has some deep issues he is avoiding.

That's your only option to divorce.

Answer 10

hahaha I think we are married to twins. I am also pregnant and have a husband who can't clean up and plays lots of video games. It took a lot to get him to the point of where he is at. I basically had to tell him I wasn't happy with our marriage. But you have to understand that men are wired differently and he might just want some time to relax when he comes home, that's where the compromising should come in though, tell him he can play a certain amount if he does certain things, like taking out the garbage.

Answer 11

Do him like I did my kids, when they were not home hid the controllers...yes they got mad but I got their attention and i don't let play till the weekend or you can get dressed up and leave for the night and let him know your not going to set around and wait on him to quit being a child.  When he grows up then you will treat him like an adult. Though love is the best when it comes to that frekin games

Answer 12

He is obviously an immature, insensitive man that doesn't deserve a wife until he grows up and starts respecting other people. Ignore him until he comes to the table ready to talk, and it won't take long.

Answer 13

You NEVER ask a man who just worked a 10 or 14 hour shift to do things the second he gets home. Men do not operate the same as woman and he has to decompress after a long day at work. That is why he is playing video games.. to disconnet from work. You shouldn't nag him 24 hours a day to pay attention to you because you will get exactly the opposite. Men are not dogs, you can not just snap your figures and he will jump!

Answer 14

Get naked....It works for me....

Answer 15

lol i know how you feel, he is playing madden right now actually, i just got a hobby, its called answering questions on yahoo answers... WOO!

Answer 16

Throw his sh*t in the garbage.