How do I get my husband to want me?

Question

He will have s*x with me but we have to watch p**n or he has a morning ***** So does this mean he isnt attracted to me? I always want s*x before we go to bed he don't.

Answer 1

Of course he's attracted to you. Why else would he marry you? Try consulting a psychologist, not cuz u got problems but cuz they know how to deal with this.

Answer 2

leave him be with me I will please you

Answer 3

You need to create an exciting atmosphere for him.  Surprise him by putting a lot of naked women's pictures all around the bedroom (I cut them from Playboy, hustler and such).  Have some candles lit, and a bottle of the bubbly.  Buy a new s**y nightie.  Every time he thinks about what you did, he will get hard for you.  

Every now and then keep surprising him, to keep his memory of you being s**y alive.  You can think of many ways to get his mind racing about you.  Think of things he sees on the p**n.  Take candlelit bathes together with Champagne.  Dress up in s**y nurse costume (I made one with a white jacket, nurse hat and made a badge that said "Head Nurse", short skirt and all) and greet him at the door.  There are hundreds of ways to excite him.  Read some books on different positions, and don't forget that giving head is like giving a gift to a guy!!!

Answer 4

You always want s*x before bedtime...this is thee problem.  He is bored.  Switch it up, have s*x in the middle of the day or have s*x in the kitchen or shower.  if you bore a man in bed, he will need other influences, p**n or another woman.  Wear something s**y, say something raunchy.  Tell him you want to suck on his balls until he explodes...if that doesn't get him going, then the problem isn't just s*x, it is that he doesn't want you.

Answer 5

Wear some s**y nighties and lay on the sofa and use a toy and he will not resist that! If that dont work talk to him!  

Answer 6

First off it's probably about him, not about you.

Maybe he wants to take your s*x life in a more strange direction.  Maybe he wants to come on your face, or have anal s*x, or some other bizarre variation on the normal routine.  Maybe he wants to be on the bottom, or maybe he wants oral s*x.

Sounds like he may just have some mild erectile dysfunction and that he's embarrassed about it.  

So my advice to you is 1) don't worry, and 2) be patient with the situation.  Try just bringing him a beer and getting him off with your mouth and letting him come all over the place.  Try l*****g his balls.  Make him feel that he's totally comfortable and in control.  He probably feels a lot of pressure to please you and he needs to feel that it's ok to just relax.

I suggest you be OK with just pleasuring him like this for a week or two while he gets back into the zone.  I know it's not fair but you'd want him to do it for you if you had your own issues to work through.

Bottom line, don't worry about it and try to have some fun with it.  I think once he feels in control and comfortable he'll want to put it inside of you and give you the best he's got.

Answer 7

Speaking as a male, he's probably become bored with the situation. The need for fantasy visual aids supports that.

Surprise him. Do something new in the bedroom to make him interested again.

Answer 8

Tell him that marriage is about compromise. If he cant have s*x with you without glearing at p**n stars then i would be worried, no way i would tollerate that!!!

Ask him if there is anything wrong etc.....i would not go out your way to please him though, he certainly isnt for you.

I would also look at your selfish husband again and think if he really is the right person for you.

Answer 9

There is a possibility that there may be some medical issues going on. He may also be experiencing some stress or even be really exusted by bed time. Talk with your husband and suggest for him to see his doctor and request a complete physical. Have your husband mention to his doctor his condition. He may only need vitamins or maybe some medication. There are alot of break throughs today for these type of conditions. Good luck.

Answer 10

You said it, you always want s*x, he doesn't.  Wait until he wants it and play hard to get.

Answer 11

He maybe tired at night from a long day at work and you have been laying around watching soap operas.

Nothing wrong in watching p**n, but it may mean you don't turn him on any more, or he wants you to try different moves.

Get yourself a toy and take it to bed at night and lay next to him and start to please yourself, let him watch, maybe it will be better then a movie for him.

He may have a low libido (s*x drive) and need some pills, or a change of diet.

Answer 12

If you stop to think about it, right before sleep at night is not the best time to have s*x. The problem more than likely isn't lack of attraction for you,  your husband is probably tired from working and just wants to SLEEP.  You're probably tired and don't give it your best.   That's why they like it in the morning....they're rested and refreshed and can enjoy what they are doing.  If it's his attention you want from him in the evening and you feel frisky, offer to let him lay  back and enjoy a back rub, foot rub, or maybe a BJ without asking for anything in return.  That's some LIVE action with you as the star that he would LOVE to watch, I bet.  Might even get you a little attention!    

Answer 13

Did you openly talked with your husband about your wish.

Early morning erection is normal to men.  But the thing is, after doing the act, does your husband goes to work, or stays at home.

talk with him and convince him that it will be much fun in the evening rather than the morning.

Does he has any malfunction with his organ?

if yes, then go and talk to a doctor.

good luck

Answer 14

talk to him about it, i'm sure he is oblivious to the fact that you are having this issue, and he will be happy to help :)

of course he is attracted to you, after all he did marry you!

then try something new and exciting like role playing to get some spice back into your s*x life!

Answer 15

No it doesent necessarily mean he's not attracted to you.  If you want him at night excite him at night with p**n, haagen daz, captain crunch cereal or whatever floats his boat and you will increase your chances.