How do I get my mom to see my side?

Question

It seems like me and my mom never agree on anything.

-I ask her for more clothes-I have about 6-7 shirts, and she says I have enough. I mean, I go to a private school where some girls don't even where the same shirts twice in a month.

-She promised me to help me clean my room, and when its clean she said she'll get me contacts. She did not help me 2 hours a day like she said she would, therefore my room didn't get clean. Now im in school and have no time to clean. With my glasses I feel ugly and without them I can't see.

-This ones kind of stupid, but she insists Im add and that I get hyper after drinking caffeine and coke, so she doesn't let me drink it. I don't get hyper from either, as a matter a fact, caffeine tends to relax me.

-She won't buy me makeup even though many girls in my grade wear it. She even lets me wear it, but she refuses to buy any. She says I don't need makeup. I'm not even asking for much, just a little lipstick and mascara!

I feel like she doesn't understand me at all. Because of that I'm quite depressed because of my glasses, clothes, makeup situation. A lot of times at school I get really self conscious when I see myself with glasses, and I get really stressed when I'm standing at my closet with nothing to wear. What should I do about this? How can I get my mom to see where I'm coming from?

Answer 1

I agree with the first answerer. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Quit trying to compete with other people, because you will always run into people who have more and people who have less. What matters is what is inside you and how you carry yourself.

Learn to be content and make-do with what you have. Begin with small purchases... a little at a time. Learn to take care of your stuff, and earn your own stuff.

Your mom is playing cheap-o. Using nonexistant rewards to get you to do stuff.  

Answer 2

You know what hon.If a girl is attractive at all, guys will notice her if she is wearing no make up or if she is wearing 5 lbs of it.

I have seen a lot of girls with glasses with b/f's and husbands.

Your room,it IS your room YOU clean it.

Your clothes?

Some kids have none.If you can go to school 5 days without wearing the same thing then fine.If people judge you as bad because you do not have the same amount of material possessions due to your family's income,then what does that say about those people judging you as bad for this?

If you ever get a loose tooth and get it pulled, put it in a jar of coke or ANY soft drink.

Keep the lid on it,check it after 2 weeks,then in 2 more weeks look at it.

Answer 3

may i ask, how old are you?

-6-7 shirts is enough--if not get a package of just colored tank tops..

-you shouldve cleaned alot more then-your job to keep your room clean, not hers

-maybe you dont realize that you do get hyper

-go to the store and buy cheap makeup

--i basically hear you just comparing yourself to other people in your school..just because other people have certain things or wear X amount of clothes doesnt mean you need 500 shirts..not trying to be mean to  you or put you down, but your mom does have some reasons...to me it sounds like you are young like 14 or something..

Answer 4

Ok - first of all, this weekend, clean your own room.  I believe you when you say it is really really messy.  First take a plastic grocery/garbage bag and put in everything that is garbage, or that you need to throw away (old plates, paper, etc.).  Then separate dirty clothes from clean ones, and put the dirty clothes in the laundry room.  Then fold and put away the clean clothes.  Dust off your furniture.  Then, depending on whether you have carpet or not, either vacuum or use a wet mop/towel to clean your floor. Finally fix your bed. It may take all day, but it'll be worth it.  Ok, I know this question wasn't on how to clean your room, but this will show your mom that you really are serious about some changes that you want in your life.  Sit down with her, just the two of you, with no tv, other people, etc., explain to your mom how you aren't trying to "be" like other girls, but that your glasses make you feel self-conscious, that they are uncomfortable, and that you'd like a "trial" period with contact lenses.  Take one change at a time.  It sounds like the glasses are your main concern, so do that one first.  Take her with you to the store (can be Walmart, Walgreens, etc.).  Look at the makeup together.  Ask her to "choose" your makeup, but give her gentle suggestions of what you are looking for.  This way, she will feel as though she chose what you are wearing, which will help her feel like she is still in control of the situation.  Sometimes a tinted lipgloss and a light brown mascara can look a whole lot better than darker makeup, especially on a thirteen year old girl.  Make your mom feel as though you really want her advice, b/c you think that she probably "knows how you feel, since she was your age once."  Even if you don't really feel this way, sometimes flattery can be the best way to get what you want!  As far as the caffeine drinks, take it slowly.  Tell her that she "may be right" about how the caffeine affects you, but that maybe it can be a treat for the weekend.  Believe me, the more you make your mom feel as though she knows everything, the more that she will respond to you:)  I don't mean to lie to her, just flatter her.  Good luck!

Answer 5

I understand how you feel because in high school you become more independent. You become more self-conscience about your appearance. My goal is not to try to earn points but to help only. I personally agree with you about your shirts, although you must be independent from your classmates. The things you want should be something you would like to have, not to impress your friends at school.

You may want to consider shopping at a used clothing shore. The prices are excellent and you will get a lot more for your money. You will be amazed how many high school students secrectly shop there. You owe it to yourself to check them out.

Most people wear glasses as a fashion statement. You can wear contact lens or even have corrective surgery. If your mom had promised to get you contact, and didn't do it. The next time have her to sign an agreement or ask her what you can do around the house to earn money. You then use the money to buy the lens you need. You should discuss this matter with your mom.

If your mom feels that you don't need makeup, it could be only that you are too cute to wear it. The idea of makeup is to have your skin look attractive. You may consider of using your mom's makeup until you have enough money to buy some yourself.

What I would like for you to do is to buy a journal. Each night write about your intermit feelings. This will help you to deal with your problems. You make sure you continue to keep an open communication with your mom, even when she hurts you. You just may find out how much she really loves you. God bless.

Answer 6

First of all you would know if you had A.D.D. all A.D.D means is that you have a short attention span

as to your other situations tell your mom how you feel for example try something like

"i feel that you are not letting me be my own person i would really like to have my own make up just a lipstick and a mascara and sharing makeup is not even hygienic" stuff like that

good luck!

(by the way A.D.D stands for attention defsitic disorder)