How do I get my mother to understand me?

Question

Two days ago my father was prepping my room for a new internet instillation My mom is a neat freak, and wanted to clean the corner of the computer that gets rarely touched. She wasn't satified with my definition of clean. So she cleaned where I cleaned and where I wouldn't attempted to clean because it was too much lifting things up to clean the dust off of. While she was cleaning near my tv, she was lecturing on how I never get things done, and never get things clean. The I yelled "You'd be better off and happy if I were dead or went to college!" Since then We've not spoken and she doesn't remind me to eat or exercise. The only time she does talk is when she acutally needs me to do a small task.

My mothers personality can be described as a controlling neat freak to sum things up I guess. She wants everything clean and perfect, and she understands that she's not some god or what ever.

My personilty is simply a good for nothing lazy son. I don't like working alot, and cleaning is not one of my high points. But when I want to get something done, I actually can get it done right or close to right. But I rarely want to get things done (because I have an odd outlook on life and death).

So yea, I know I should put more details, but Im a bit too lazy and hoping not to search around on the internet much, so I don't get new viruses on my computer.

Answer 1

i think you should apologize because she only does what she does because she loves you. and i know that it is not easy with a controlling mother. and also let her know that you are not like her maybe you don't want certain things to be cleaned. and so what if your lazy my mom doesn't care she makes me do it but i say that you should at least try a little harder it's the least you could do after all, she does take care of you.

Answer 2

Just chill out and be passive about it. If she wants to clean it let her clean it. If you have to listen to the fussing let it blow in one ear and out the other. And BTW get used to it, women usually get set in their own ways. It's nothign to do with you , it's who she is. As you expect to be respected for your indivuality then you have to respect hers. Shes jsut being a parent and wants to teach the rigth things. It's hard being a parent. So just roll with it. Is it really that big of a deal?