How do I get my son to accept the new baby?

Question

I am 6 months pregnant and my son just turned a year old. I am starting to worry about how he will adjust to his new little sister since he has been spoiled for so long. Does anyone have any ideas on how to introduce him to the baby and how to make this an easy transition from 1 child to 2?

Answer 1

Unfortunately there is no easy solution.  Some children are totally accepting from the get go, some take a little more time.  Try to really keep him involved, including during the pregnancy.  Also I find that after I have a baby I get my other kids gifts to so they don't feel left out and have some family members take them on boys day out only events.  

Answer 2

have him help out when the new baby comes

Answer 3

your kids are going to be what.....18months apart??  he'll adjust.  i had 3 kids in 3 yrs and my oldest is 15 months older than my 4 yr old and she had no problems with him it was when my youngest came along is when the S**t hit the fan.  she was 2 almost 3 by then and she hated him.  she used to climb in his bassinet, sleep in the playpen with him, climb in his crib, but, my middle one never did that.  i would have him help out with little stuff like....tell him.....hey buddy do you want to be a big boy and help mommy??  had him the diaper while your holding your youngest and have him hand you the diaper, and wipes.  i used to have my oldest help by having her sit next to me and have her hold the bowl by the time he was on cereal.  i nursed my youngest till he was 9 months old so......the only time he got a bottle was at my mother in laws house.  she would give him and bottle and have the other to help with feedings.  i would show him where the blankets are and have him hold the baby's "blankie" and tell him "tell baby night night" and have him hand you the blanket.  it's not going to be that horrible.  it'll be fine.  good luck to you, your kids, and your hubby.

Answer 4

i had the same worries when i was pregnant with my second baby. my two kids are 22 months apart.just make sure you include your son. and when the baby is asleep have just you and him time so he still feels love. my son is now 2 months old and my daughter loves him. it is the cutest to watch a 2 year act like a littl lady.

Answer 5

I had the same worries when I was pregnant with my second.

I just involved my daughter as much as possible with my pregnancy.  As my belly grew bigger I made sure she knew a baby was in there and it would come out and be a little sister or brother for her to love.  She use to kiss my tummy good night and we read books all about babies and I explained how she use to be a baby and showed her her baby pictures.

When the day came to introduce them it went really really well.  She seemed to know the baby wasn't in my belly anymore and gave her new sister big kisses.  It also helped that the baby had a gift waiting for her big sister at the hospital and the big sister couldn't wait to give the baby a teddy bear she picked out herself.  

What was hard was when I was nursing and my oldest wanted my attention, if my husband was around he could distract her by playing or something, but when he wasn't around it was a little different.  So, I got a basket and a movie and in the basket some toys she only played with when I was nursing and the movie she only watched when I was nursing.  We all grew into a really good routine and the whole stress of what if she's jealous completely melted and seemed ridiculous.

Good luck!