How do I get out of an abusive marriage??

Question

my husband has been abusive ever since our first child was born ...things use to be perfect but then he changed...he always calls me terrible names and he beats me almost everyday and forces me to have s*x with him ....I was pregnant with our second child but I had a miscarriage because of him.....I do have many family members I could talk to that would help me but he'd probably kill me if I tell someone or try to leave.....he always threatens to kill me .....I know if I don't leave one of us will end up dead eventually what should I do.....

I can't let my daughter see me hurt all the time

Answer 1

one day when he is out call someone to help u move ur stuff i think u should plan it ahead then call the cops  

Answer 2

go to the popo. File for divorce. Talk to your mother. Get a restraining order. Move out of town RIGHT after the divorece!! Get him locked up!!

Answer 3

GO TO THE POLICE! if they are there to protect you he can not kill you. as long as you have evidence of his abusiveness then he will most likely go to jail!

best of luck!

i'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

well u really need to get out of his life go some where you knw he isnt goin to find you.

Answer 5

Well you need to leave! It isn't fair for your child to both see you hurt and be in danger herself because your scared. I think you should carefully plan on out smarting him and leaving him, it isn't worth it. He sounds like a psycho...lol so you should think about a restraining order as soon as you leave him!

Answer 6

You need to get a plan together first.

1) do you have money saved? or stashed? that he doesn't know about?

2) are people aware of your situation? police, family, counsellors?

3) who can you trust? maybe not even his friends or family? maybe yours??

4) can you get away safely?

5) plan ahead where you are going, shelters?  hotels? new city? remember do not leave an electronic trail...if you do not want to be found.

6) your child will adjust even though its not the norm, at least she's away from the violence.

7) get restraining orders, custody, and all legal papers in order ASAP.

8) Time!! give yourself time, away from speaking to him, he may try to swoon you back to him, you may have guilty feelings for leaving. I guarantee, once you keep saying no!! You will see the old him return extremely fast!!

9) just remember to PLAN, and make sure he won't be home; that way you can get away safely

These are some of the things I had to do when I left my spouse...remember, people can start over, get new furniture, clothes, jobs, cars...BUT!! you can't get a new body if yours dies!! Be safe for you and your daughter take care, be strong, and God Bless.

PS Marital rape is punishable by law, along with everything else you've mentioned.