How do I get over a breakup?I am heartbroken and cant go on.?

Question

I found out that my partner of 10 years cheated on me in May.We were high school sweethearts, lost our virginity to each other and were even trying for kids.I found out as he was being horrible to me and I found texts on his phone.He denied it but eventually gave in and told the truth.We split and he continued to see her for two weeks but she told him it was a mistake and she wasnt interested.I also had a misscarriage at this time.I found out loads from the girl he cheated on me with.He told me he was sorry.A few weeks later we slept together and then started to see each other but he stayed with his sister.While he took me out I discovered he was still texting her and trying to convince her to be f buddies.Eventually a few weeks after I lost the baby we got back together.He spent nights with me and went out with friends.no contact with her.she hasnt contacted him either.then he got a new flat and picked up his stuff.Didnt hear much from him after and he was always busy.He then told me on my birthday that it wasnt working cause i didnt trust him and i couldnt forgive him.I told him I needed time and him to make an effort.Then he said he didnt know if he felt the same anymore.I am lost.I have lost weight, I cant eat, I cant sleep, I am on anti-depressants since may but feel suicidal all the time, cry all the time and vomit.He speaks to me only when I call him about his mail and he acts like I am nothing.I know he isnt seeing her and he told me he isnt interested in finding anyone else but wants us just to be friends.Why did he do this to me?I dont know what to do.I am so heartbroken.I trusted him.I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him,our baby and I need my best friend and he isnt here.I just want the pain to stop.

Answer 1

Ok first, your situation is tough. I am so incredibly sorry and feel for your situation right now. And you have to realize that this isn't a horrible feeling that will go away over night. I would take a break; find something you enjoy; go talk to people you are close to besides him.

He is a jerk. Okay. I know it might be hard to also let that sink in; again, it will take time. You may not see it now, but there's sooo many men out there and you will find someone better because anyone is better than a cheater and a liar.

Please please whatever you do don't beat yourself over it. It wasn't your fault. Too many women do that. Just remember that this will only make you a stronger woman. More wiser and worldy. If you can get through this you'll be able to get through just about any other pain and suffering life throws your way.

Also take it as good sign in a way that you don't have kids...b/c then they would have a broken family.

Answer 2

I know it hurts.  The pain is horrible, it really is.  But it'll get better.  In a few months, it won't be nearly so bad, and then soon enough, it'll be gone altogether.  You need to make it a clean break, though.  He will probably continue to want to have you in his life at some level, because he most likely will want to have his cake and eat it too.  But he's treated you too bad for you to just take him back.  Not anytime soon anyway.  So tell him you don't want to see or hear from him.  I did this once, when I had a guy who treated me like c**p, broke up with me, but kept calling and emailing me, and it made me feel surprisingly better just to exert some control and tell him to stay out of my life.

Answer 3

maybe call a friend or family member they no u best  :]

Answer 4

In will take time but it will pass.

Answer 5

My question is how did you come to think so little of yourself that you would want a lying, two timing loser like this in your life? Can you just imagine the kind of father he would be? Life is for living and being happy, not at the mercy of a louse. I am not trying to simplify a broken heart, but this goes beyond that. The problem lies within you. Please seek counseling and get your life back together. God bless and good luck.