How do I get over little things that bother me?

Question

I seem to get very anxious over trivial interactions with people. I constantly second-guess myself, wonder if I said the wrong thing and whether or not I should go back and fix it.

Here's a classic example of what I'm talking about to give you an idea.

Yesterday I was in my boss' office and we were talking about one of our projects. She seems to really appreciate my work and we get along well. As I was talking I kinda caught myself looking at her arm because I noticed something there. I didn't realize she'd noticed and I felt kind of embarrased when she made a comment and just said something like, oh that, yeah I'm allergic to something in my garden and put some cream over it. I felt so awkward because I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable and I didn't even think she'd noticed that I caught a glimpse by accident. It didn't seem worth dwelling on it so I just said something like, oh no, I understand or something and didn't bring it up again, but for some reason I'm still thinking about it and how guilty I felt for potentially making her feel uncomfortable. I'm sure it's not worth bringing it up again, but how do I get over this and how come I keep thinking and stressing over this instead of letting it go?

Answer 1

get a hobby start drinking

Answer 2

she seemed pretty cool abou it.

think of a hobby.  dont feel like you made her uncomfortable

you got her answer. move on. think of stuff u like to do, and move on.

try?  

Answer 3

You sound as though you are a very caring sort of a person, and maybe that is what is wrong, maybe you are too caring.

Caring too much about what others think, is called other centred. You can take on everything everyone else wants, becoming a pleaser/rescuer.. You can be in constant anticipation and too reactive. It is very hard to be a non-anxious pro-active person when everything other people does sets your agena for you.

The answer is not to become Self centred and not care about what others think either. that is just driving across the road into the other ditch!

Centred, is knowing that you are who you are, that you know what you meant, and so does God, the ultimate Judge. What others think is their problem, not yours. If they have a problem, it is up to them to talk to you about it, and it is best to think that all people like you, until they tell you otherwise!

Believe me, I know what you are going through, I am learning Centredness myself!

Mel