How do I get over my shyness?

Question

At home, around my family, i am my outgoing, crazy self. And with a few other people who i am more comfortable around, i am not afraid to be myself. But around most people, like, at school, i am really shy. There's like this outgoing person inside of me that just does not come out around most people. I want this school year to be better, and i want to have more friends. How can i come out of this ridiculous shell i'm hiding in? Thanksss :)

Answer 1

I used to be very like you but my recent life experiences have opened me up. Just say hello to people act interested, most likely they will start a conversation with you because they also want to make friends. Its good you are outgoing around your family because you spend a lot of time at home. Do you know what it is makes you shy, is there something about these people that makes you feel uncomfortable?

Answer 2

I am exactly the same way.

don't worry about it, I know the feeling of wanting to break free and just be like everyone else.

But You can't force yourself to be who your not, and part of you is being shy around people. Don't try to be anyone but yourself, people will love you for who you are!

If it's really important and you don't feel like this shy girl is you, then try to be confident and start conversations first.

Sometimes when I wanted to just let go I would go into the new day thinking I am going to just be me today, and just build yourself up!

But I think that you shouldn't go as far as trying to be those people who are loud and really really crazy and get really annoying, because then you will just look false. The same will happen if your try to be like someone. Again, just act natural and try to think of how you would normally react.

And to make friends try sparking a conversation about something your really passionate about! Then your truly colors will really shine! For me it was about one of my favorite books, and people claimed its the most they've ever heard me say before!

;) Good Luck, and just be you!

Answer 3

I know exactly what that feels like!

I read an article once, in some women's magazine (Cosmo or Redbook or something) that said that the best way to be comfortable being yourself - to be confident - is to fake it.

At first, I thought it was stupid.  But I tried it anyway.  When I felt the urge to be shy or reserved, I let my true personality shine instead.  It was hard at first, since I was afraid of being ridiculed.  People responded favorably though - laughed at my jokes, had great conversations, etc.  I kept forcing myself to open up instead of clamming up when I was with people I didn't know... and after while, I realized that I wasn't forcing myself anymore - because I was more confident and felt comfortable just being me!

Answer 4

I'm also shy completely shy we had a singing contest last night i did it a actual stood up there and song i was really scared but think you should take chance put your self out there I'm still shy but it really opened me up some to make friends good luck