How do I get over the fear of giving oral s*x? 28 and only did it once when I was in high school, ?

Question

absolutely hated it. I keep getting asked to give one by my husband but don't feel comfortable with it. He's well endowed for one thing and his girlfriend before me gave to him all the time, so I'd feel like I wasn't good or I know that I won't be good. Probally choke! lol What can I do to feel more comfortable? Is it really that common of a thing in society?

Answer 1

Yes it is common, no you don't have to do it, and you can do it without choking, just don't take to much.  But I will say the more you can take the more he likes.

Answer 2

Talk it over with your hubby - does he know that you've only done it once? I'm sure he'll be considerate that you're not too experienced in this area.

I hated giving head the first few times I did it, but now I absolutely love it. When you're starting out, don't try and deep throat him the whole time - that takes practice! Make sure to tell him you won't deep throat at first too, so he's not expecting it and won't try to force it on you. It can be very pleasurable for both you and him just to l**k, suck and explore without sticking it all the way down your throat. Even if you just take the tip of it in your mouth and let your tongue play around, it feels great for him. With time, you'll get the hang of it and hopefully you'll start enjoying it!

Also, right after he gets out of the shower is a great time to do it. Clean p***s is much nicer than I-just-got-home-from-work-and-I'm-sweaty p***s.

Answer 3

honestly, there are classes u can take that give instruction as to how to get yourself comfortable with performing oral s*x and they also instruct you on how you can get better. Search the net for oral s*x classes

Answer 4

Dear Kari,

Youre not the first or the last woman to feel this way. For most men it is important to get this. Just as its very important to get whatever is a favorite to you. Get to know your husbands instrument. Wash it in the shower, stare at it and just play with it. The more you run from it, the scarrier it gets. Massage it and just watch how it works and the reaction. Sometims just kissing it with soft kisses may help until you can get omfortable doing the full job.You may start to appreciate it. Dont feel like you have to compete with the last girlfriend. She may have been horrible at it. Make sure you massage the shaft appropriately with strokes and twists. It doesnt always have to be mouth play. You can talk dirty while you massage it and kiss it. He'll get into it and you will too.  

Answer 5

Just treat it like a lolly-pop. Try dipping it in something sweet that you like. Honey or chocolate and l**k it off. Your husband will cheat on you if you don't. You know this... lol just kiddin about that last part :-)

Edit: Hehe (^_^)

Answer 6

Well, if you don't want a divorce you'll just have to "suck it up" so to speak. What are you afraid of anyway? Trust me, a little gagging will turn your husband on. Only follow the advice of others here if you truly can say that your husband does nothing out of the norm for you. Believe me, cuddling and all that stuff is a bit of a chore for men too.

Answer 7

It's all how you look at it. Don't think of it as a competition from his Ex.. Think of it as a lollipop or ice cream bar. Start and the top and work your way down. Just remember not to bite it hard. A little chewing on the top of the head is alright.. Guys love that. Only take in what you can. don't choke on it. You don't need all of it in your mouth for him to enjoy or get off on. You can also use both the mouth, tongue and hands if you don't want all of him in your mouth.

I started off the same way you are. I never liked it either. Until I learned what my husband liked in that area and now it doesn't bother me at all. It'll just take some time and practice and you'll be fine.. In the meantime your husband will LOVE all the practcing.. Lol

Good luck

Answer 8

Honey if you dont feel comfortable doing this then you really shouldn't! I myself dont like it either! My husband dont ask me to, cause he knows I dont like it! there's other things you can do, with your mouth down there! try just kissing around on him, down there use your hand at the same time. if you feel comfortable enough to move on do it if not dont!!

most importantly talk to your husband, and tell him about your fears!

good luck sweetie!  

Answer 9

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Answer 10

just do it and dont worry about it lol

Answer 11

most men who love there partner would not care about having it, you dont have to do it , find something else he might like instead

Answer 12

WELL I HAVE NEVER LIKED IT EITHER... BUT I JUST DO IT TO MY BF ANYWAYS IT GETS HIM TO STOP ASKING FOR IT ALL THE TIME IF YOU JUST DO IT... JUST TRY THINKING ABOUT OTHER THINGS WHEN ARE DOING HAHAH THATS WHAT I DO MAKES IT GO BY FASTER HAHA

Answer 13

pretend its a lolly_pop flavor it with something

Answer 14

You absolutely do not have to do this. If you are not comfortable -

don't do it. He will appreciate any attempts on your part, but it sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself right now.

Answer 15

I hate giving BJs to guys. Here is what I do so that I like it more (or can deal with it better). Buy flavored CONDOMS and use those everytime he wants a BJs. I have never had a guy complain. When I tell them I will give them one whenever if they use a flavored condom the guy is like OK! I have s*x with my BF without condoms frequently but if i give him a BJ i use a flavored condom. It makes it more pleasant for me. And when he cums it goes into the condom not my mouth! AND do NOT put his who di ck in your mouth. Put only as much as you can deal with. And use your hands too. Play with his balls gently with your hands and rub his di ck as you suck on it. Give it a try. Im 28  years old by the way

Answer 16

If you don't feel good about this, do not do it.