How do I get over this problem with my step-daughter

Question

I'm a single step-dad. My 15yo daughter (N, she is my step-daughter but I take crae of her like my own) got raped months ago by a man who had her in his house for an afternoon. She is now pregnant in 6th month. I have this problem and I would really need good advice because I don't want to get that problem spread around. Recently I often have erections when I look at N. The thing is I find her s**y with that belly. I wouldn't do anything to harm her (don't get the wrong idea, I'm just looking for advice and please, no rude comments). We are close, like best friends rather than a dad and a kid. We share everything, talk about everything, etc. My first question is if you have some good advice how to get over that problem about my sexual attraction to N and the second question - do I talk to her about this since we always share our problems?

Answer 1

Ummm....since you're single what better occasion to get her as a new g/f?!  If you like her and she like you then also the love could come on soon... you could be the father for her baby and considered your desire you even could satisfy your arousal towards her without problem. Later you could marry too!

Answer 2

she is your step daughter u r not ment to feel attracted to her!

no don't tell her.

and see a phyciatrist

Answer 3

get with her

its not liek there is any blod between you

raise the baby as if it were your own

Answer 4

You should get it out of your mind about sexual things towards her, she may look at you like a daddy and then there you are looking at her like a grown woman. She is a kid going through something horrible and if you told her your 'feelings' dont you think that would make things worse for her? You are a grown man and should not even be talking with someone underaged about your problems.

Tell N's mother about this so she can do something about it.  But if i knew that you were looking at my daughter like that and i was or had been married to you i would proably get a restraining order out. You should be looking for women your own age and not with any stepkids.

Answer 5

Do not tell her because the minute you tell her thing may become awkward and she might not want to be around you any more and plus

she has more to deal with than that

Answer 6

No you do not tell her. She probably already has trust issues with men due to the horrible act that was done to her. One when you decided to become a step parent you do not cross those boundaries. You need to go talk to a professional about how to handle this. Why are you a single step dad? Where is her mother is she not there for her?