How do I get rid of the fear of labour? ?

Question

Somebody please help me. I am planning to get pregnant soon. My hubby and I are already trying. However, I have a deep fear of labour. I don't know where I got it from. But when I think of labour, I can only relate it to pain, tear in my v****a and blood. I want a baby badly. I'm able to love and care for one. But how can I get rid of this fear? It's really crippling me and making me nervous and anxious for no reason. Mums out there, please help me. Thank you in advance.

Answer 1

just think that once its all over, itll pay off b/c ull have a wittle slice of joy. plus u can get the doctors to do a c-section. ull have a scar but i dont think ull have pain... permanent scar? or temporary pain? hmm.

Answer 2

All moms get a little nervous about labour, it's normal, but you can ease your pain knowing that:

1. you will live and it is bearable.

2.you won't feel yourself rip

3. After that baby is out it is the greatest relief you will ever feel

4. If all else fails, you can have morphine, laughing gas or an epidural

5. You get to enjoy bringing a life into this world

Answer 3

Sweet its totally normal so dont feel bad. Ive just had my baby and not once during my pregnancy was i worried about being a mum but worried about the birth. I had to have a c section and in no means at all was it easy but it worked for me. I found what was helpful during my pregnancy was to arm myself with as much information as possible about every different thing that could happen and different scenarios. Not to scare you but so your informed and you know what you want. Have a very strict birth plan so that you feel mare secure in what you have decided and stay positive. And last but certainly not lest do NOT listen to peoples horror stories, you are not them so tell them to bugger off and do what works for you and your baby. Youll be fine.

Answer 4

33 weeks prego... I'm still scared!

Answer 5

Before you go off the deep end why don't you talk to a sister or close friend that was also scared.

After all you said you are already planning I bet you already have right!

  so you are answering your own question aren't you?

You know what you really want you don't need a stranger to shore up your courage!

Answer 6

You should try something like Hypnobabies or something.  http://www.hypnobabies.com/   The program gives you tools to use to cope with the pain.  Also, not every woman tears and there isn't always a lot of blood.  Usually in movies they make it more dramatic than it really is.  I'd also like to point out that a c-section (as someone stated previously) is not painless.  It's major abdominal surgery.  With a vaginal birth most of the pain is during labor and it subsides once the baby is out.  With a c-section, you are in pain sometimes during the surgery and after.  It is very difficult caring for a newborn with a huge gash in your stomach.  Once you get pregnant you will be so excited to see your baby after carrying it for all that time, that you will manage through the pain.  You can do it.  :)  Good luck.  

Answer 7

when i hit 18 weeks i had a little emotional breakdown and cried as i watched a horrible program where things stretched frighteningly and i was very upset, but im over it. Im still scared but have decided that i would rather tear a little down there than be laid up with a c-section. Im sure i read somewher that after you have your baby your body releases a hormone that stops you remembering how terrible it was, im not sure whether i dreamt that, but imagine its true as i watch many baby programs. You will be fine, you can always have an epidural. And you dont have to look down there when popping it out! i have about 16 weeks to go and am told that soon i wont care how much it hurts as i will just want it out of there!!!!

Answer 8

I dont know how anyone can help with your fears except for providing reassurance.  Women have had babies for years.  They have wonderful medical knowledge, equipment and pain killers these days.  Not all women tear and if there was any blood, you wouldnt see it so wouldnt even need to know about it.  Epidurals would cover your major contractions if you wanted one and couldnt stand the pain.  

I think the best way is to take some deep breaths, think about all the good things about having a baby and then think labour is a few hours and so many women have done it and once its over the pain has gone and you will have years of good with this little baby.  The good far outway that one event to get the baby into the world.  I believe you can do it.  All women are frightnened.  I am too but its got to happen now.  Cant stay in there forever and we women are designed for this.  Make a list of your fears and talk to your doctor about putting them to rest.

Good luck