How do I get the people at work to like me?

Question

I am a waiter at this restaurant and am somewhat new. I have worked there for around 3 weeks. I have a feeling that no one really likes me. I try to be nice to them and join some conversations. I help out etc. I just got this job for when I going back to school after graduating college so I can make some spending money. I try to start conversations sometimes and it seems like they are just responding and don't really care about continuing, or they talk little bit then walk over to someone else. Anyway, I may be paranoid but just have the weird feeling. I am not looking to be best friends with them, but it is kind of uncomfortable when they are all friends and I am in the shadows. It usually is not like with me. Am I caring too much?

Answer 1

I think they are jealous of you ,and maybe they think you look down on them (Even though you don't).

Answer 2

They are probably just used to eachother already....just be plesant and confident, i wouldnt go out of my way to fit in,...it will probably just take time ,there just getting used to you right now....eventually you can befriend the next newbie:) Hang in there this too shall pass.

Answer 3

Restaurant workers can be very cliquey.  It sometimes is hard to get into the "in" crowd.  Sometimes they are just a$$holes and you probably wouldn't want to be friends with them anyway.  The best way to get in, in my experience, is to go to an after party or to the bar with them after work and get wasted with them.  Kinda sad I know, but it usually works.

Answer 4

I was the same way. Restaurants are the best way to describe it - sometimes you feel like you are in high school again w/ the cliques that form. Just maybe have the after party at your place sometime and invite people over.