I am at the point of my life where I have no idea what to do with myself. I'm terrified to commit to anything except my boyfriend and I feel like I'm always wasting time. I feel like I have to choose a career RIGHT NOW and go for it, even though I know I don't have to. I want to figure out what I'm doing with my life but am scared of being cornered into something.
The only thing I feel mostly sure about is my boyfriend of only a little over a year. I know I am too young to get married and have kids and that he isn't ready either since he's divorced from someone who he thought was "the one" So now I have to wait 3 more years before he'll propose to me (Because he was with "her" for 3 years and she pressured him to marry and then cheated on him after 6 months of marriage. Because his mother is divorced 2 or 3 times. Because everyone in his platoon in the army was divorced. And because he always said, "4 years" to himself. And because he wants to make sure I can stick it out with him unlike his first wife.) I'm ok with that. But I feel so impatient. I don't understand why it seems like it would be so nice and simple to be married and have kids, but a nightmare to have to pick something else to do.
I've worked as a bookkeeper and as a receptionist since I was 18 and I'm 21 now. I didn't enjoy those jobs. We just moved and I have the rest of the summer off. My partner is incredibly patient and supportive and sometimes that just makes it harder. I have too many choices now! I don't have to work if I do something else (like go to school). I can pretty much do anything as long as I do something. But I'm idle. I didn't do well in college because every class I started I would do really well in and then just "disappear" towards the end when it got tough, even the last 2 weeks during finals when everything else was good! Or if I missed one day or one project I just gave up and wouldn't even drop the class. I'm a flake. So I considered the Army to fix myself and saw a recuiter but have been sitting on that as well. I'm so afraid they'll reject me. I am looking at different local jobs and nothing looks appealing.
I hate myself for sitting around doing nothing and being scared to "get out there". I have no discipline to stick with anything and if I do I flake out and just quit it.
How do I figure out what to do with myself? Is this just early twenties jitters? Or am I just lazy?
I am sick of being idle but I'm terrified of initiating things. I've wanted to join the army, be a singer, go back to school (I chicken-out after registering), be an animation artist, or just get a regular job to travel during the last two months. Even moving was my choice. I have never lived in a house more than two years, ever.
Is my desire to be a wife and mother just a mask of my other problems? Or is that really the one thing I need and want? It seems like I should know that answer but everytime I'm certain about something I change my mind. I just see my boyfriend agreeing to it and then me deciding I'm not ready. How can I stick to anything?
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