How do I go about setting my life in order?

Question

I set goals plans, start...then start doubting myself, procratinating putting things off, loosing moticvation, confidence....getting anxious. I am also easily distracted by internet and tv?

I wan to accomplish certain goals, but I never stick to plan its bringing me down!

Answer 1

You are not alone, it happens to all of us. I personally am really motivated about work, when I get up in the morning and feel I can do wonderful things. When I get to work, all this motivation and willingness to make a difference evaporates.

If you really want these goals accomplished, you will find a way. Think if you really want/need to do this.

When you are motivated, write the reasons that motivate you, down or even better, record a video of yourself saying why this is good idea.

Think what makes you lose your motivation and get rid of that problem.

Answer 2

Focus, just completely focus on your plans 100% Start with realistic

day to day goals, do things one step at a time. Some food supplements help one concentrate better, so take them. Ask yourself, how important are these goals for you, and picture how you want yourself to be 5 years from now. If you need to, every morning, talk to yourself in front of the mirror, and declare the goals you wish to be accomplished for that day. Words are powerful,so when you say your goals out loud, you somehow make your brain gear towards it.

Answer 3

I understand. I've been building a Trike for almost a year now and haven't even cut up the donor vehicle (74 VW Bus). You just have to take it one step at a time. I've had the part to fix my 74 Pontiac for a week. Easy fix. Lots of time to do it. Finally did it yesterday. Mark your accomplishments. Celebrate them with a Big Hi Five to Yourself. Then buy yourself a Drink. If you don't drink then a Black berry Milkshake, you get the idea. Make the accomplishment special. Do this every time as a reward to yourself.

This will build Pride and Confidence in your abilities. And make you want to do more.

Good Luck

hope my answer helps

Answer 4

How to Be "SATISFIED???"

Nobody is happy all the time, but some people are definitely more fulfilled than others, and it doesn't seem to have much to do with material goods or high achievement---things many people spend a lot of their time worrying about. So what do they have that you don't?

Steps

   1. Relax. Lighten up. Don't take yourself too seriously. Try not to over analyze things. Stress can cause many mental, physical, and spiritual problems in your life. One of the major causes of stress is worrying about things that are out of your control. Learn to recognize these things and if you can truly do nothing about them, then just let them go. Take time to laugh at yourself and the situations you find yourself in. Laughter is a powerful, positive medicine and the calmer and more peaceful you can take things, the happier your life will be. It wouldn't be life if some bad things don't happen.

   2. Smile You would be surprised how much of an immediate difference physically smiling has on your mood, if you smile and force a little laugh you will feel your mood lighten and you won't have to force it next time.

   3. Take the good with the bad. No one is happy all the time. Everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with the gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears. We cannot change the past, but we can enjoy today, and look to the future. If we are prepared to take ownership for the past and accept that everything that's happened in our life, good and bad, has made us the person we are - the battle is half won.

   4. Be thankful. A key component of happiness is acceptance - learning to be grateful for what you have. A lot of people know it but don't keep it in their minds. Comparing your life with others' is dangerous. Accept the gifts you have and know that no one is better than or less than anyone else's. Keep a "gratitude journal". Every day, write down a few things that you are thankful for and then review what you have written in past entries. It's a great way to remind yourself to be thankful for what you have and to boost your mood.

   5. Be yourself. Much criticism is caused by people who are discontented with themselves, not with you. One way to get in touch with yourself is through journaling, diaries or (lately) blogs. Your goal may be to open up completely to yourself and learn to be your own best friend by being completely honest with yourself. What do you want out of life? What makes you truly happy? Who do you want to be?

   6. Pursue goals that make you happy. Strive for long term goals rather than short term satisfaction. It's very easy to gain short term satisfaction--a quick high, a fast relief from your current problems (such as drugs, alcohol, s*x). But it is what it is, a "short term" satisfaction, and the effects die out very soon, leaving you with an empty feeling that is sometimes worse than before. Set long term goals, goals which take time, thought, and effort to achieve. This will make you continually work towards improving yourself bit by bit and will give you the satisfaction of bringing a permanent change in your life.

   7. Focus on the Objective. If the thoughts you are thinking are not giving you that 'good feeling', then think about something else that will make you feel good in that moment. Observe your thoughts and ideas consistently throughout the day (diary/journal if possible). Sometimes this may not be as easy as you think if you are stuck in a "destructive" train of thought and your brain chemicals are getting fired up and forming "anxiety or anger" thoughts. Anxiety, fear and anger patterns can be interrupted by focusing on something else. This will dissipate the rush of chemicals that are making you feel bad. Immediately then go back to picturing scenes/remembering things/imagining, planning stuff that makes you feel good.

   8. Develop healthy relationships.

          * Family. If you want a stronger relationship with your family, you're going to need to be honest with them. Tell your family about your life and don't insult them - it hurts them just as much as it hurts you to be insulted. If you are in an abusive family, you must find a way to stop the abuse and that may include separation.

          * Have a healthy relationship. If you're dating, get involved with activities that reflect who you are, and get to know people who like the things you do. Get involved with someone who loves life and pursues happiness the way you do. If you're in a relationship, strive to make that relationship healthy.

          * Choose your friends carefully. Nearly everyone needs someone who cares for them and treats them well. If you have friends who are treating you badly, or are not supportive of you and your goals to improve your life, then ditch them and find friends that do care about you. If you can't find any friends like that in your current circumstances, then look elsewhere. If you're feeling sad, there's nothing li

Answer 5

Just listen to the voice of your passion (not emotions - the two are different!) and your life will instantly be ordered in a spontaneous way!