How do I go from shy nobody to POPULAR GIRL at my new school in september?? (10 POINTS best answer!)?

Question

I know this is a bit long but PLEASE read it! Thanks!

I'm 16 and I'm going to start college (for Americans, that's the last 2 years of whatever you do before university) in September.

At my last school I got a reputation for being a shy, uptight weirdo. I'm shy, but not uptight or weird- I was just very unhappy and had personal problems. I made friends with the wrong people & they manipulated me, lowered my self esteem and spread bad rumours about me that meant I was bullied & couldn't make any more friends (they told all the girls I was a L*****n & also that I was messed up in the head cos I'd been raped when I was 8, which is totally made up). On top of that I was suffering from depression and panic attacks. My last school SUCKED and I hated every second because I didn't like the very few 'friends' I had, and nobody else liked me/even knew I existed.

I want this to change. I want to be a confident, popular girl, and be the best I can possibly be. I want to be charming and liked by the majority of people. I want everyone at my new school to wish they were like me. I don't want to be used or treated like c**p by anyone ever again, I want to stand up for myself and be a strong personality. I know that might sound shallow, but I'm sick of being walked all over and ignored and I think I deserve a chance to be an alpha girl. I think I'm a generally okay/good person, and I've been told I'm very pretty (even though I can't see it myself), but I have very low self esteem and get anxious when talking to new people. Also, the new college has no uniform, so I'm going to have to come up with cool outfits that are suitable for classes, but cute, which I'm not sure about.

How can I get what I want in like 3 weeks time?? If I have to fake confidence, how do I do that? & what makes popular people so attractive to others? What should I wear?

Any advice about any of these questions will be appreciated a lot! 10 points for best answer :) Thank you x*x

Answer 1

You're going to be in a brand new school, which is great - it means no one will know you, and you don't have to carry over any of the "baggage" from your old school. For all these new people know, you were the most popular girl in your class! You can use that to your advantage. You're going in with a fresh start. You can be anybody you want to be - they'll never know how you "used" to be!

One thing to do is exactly what you said in your question: fake confidence. It's hard to strike up a conversation with new people, but the more you pretend like it isn't, the easier it will become. No one has to know you're nervous, even if you're trembling inside! It can be your secret! Pretty soon that confidence will become real, second nature.

Also, be kind to everyone. Genuinely kind. Always be ready with a smile (smiling is very important!) or a helping hand. Don't dismiss anyone because of their perceived social class, or the way they dress, etc. - treat everyone exactly the way you would like to be treated.

Be yourself, and be interested in others. You can find something in common with ANYONE, if you take the time to talk to them.

I think you'll do great in this new situation. Keep your chin up! :)

Answer 2

You got college at 16. wtf im 16 and still in highschool.

Answer 3

dress hot... talk to ;lots of guys. and girls too. wear short skirts :D

Answer 4

Well, you cant be someone you are not, and should do attempt, it will show, and you will only come off as a fake.   Although it seems like an eternity...your school years will fly by, and once youre out of high school, you will realize that all that all the "popular"  are scum bags, and it DOES absolutely nothing for you in the future.

Dont worry about being "popular"   just focus on your school work, and try to find people who are genuine...those will be the ones to be there for you when school is long gone...and you enter the REAL WORLD...the WORKING WORLD!   How can you do that?   Easily, be friendly, say hello, smile, don't be afraid to ask for help, or give an opinion in class.   If you sit at the back and never say a word of course no one will know you exsist.  However, if you engage in class conversations, than they will know who you are.   Don't be afraid to sit next to someone, or to defend yourself either.  Usually the "popular" kids backstab each other, and are really fake.  

As far as dressing, well, dress nice.   I cant tell you what to wear, because I like urban styles...and thats me...my style.  You need to find what makes you feel confident...notice how some people dress in the wierdest outfits but pull it off?   It's all confidence baby.    If you see a shirt, and it got a few prints on it that seem weird...but you like it...take it to the fitting room, and try it on.   Thats the only way you will build your own personal style.   If being popular means acting fake and wearing things you wouldnt normally wear...then why would you even want to do that?  Thats not being you, and wouldnt you like to have a friend who likes who you are?    Just because you are shy doesnt make you a loser...it makes you reserved...and you rather observe than take center stage, and thats ok.    

This year, speak up a little more, join in on school activities...you be the one to strike the conversations.   See how better you will feel.  

Answer 5

First, BREATH, You are on the right track. You know the kind of person you want to be. This person you are trying to be you already understand is for yourself and not for others.

Sit down with people you admire in your family, could be older sibling, cousin, mom, aunt, anyone. Explain what you want to accomplish and ask for their help. Then go shopping. Buy clothes that fit your personality and ask for others opinion.

My friend and I went to the mall the summer I moved to my new school my junior year of high school. I only knew her and had no other friends. We went to the mall, changed our hair styles, did our make up, and got all dressed up just to go hang around the mall. When we seen people our age who we would like to hang around we would go up and talk to them. They did not know us and they did not know we were shy. After meeting a bunch of people the first day of school was easy. Everyone knew me by my nickname that I liked and I had a boyfriend the first day.

No one knows the old you so this is the perfect time to start over. Take the chance and HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

make your b***s as big as possible. I like the first guys answer!

Answer 7

Seriously, just be yourself. Don't bully other people or anything like that and definatly don't try to be someone your not. Just be yourself and people will like you, you could try being the funny one in your group or chose another thing. Take an active role in sports at your school like cheerleading or something that is usually a popular boost. Anyways, remember it's a new beginning and noone knows your past so be yourself and don't let others get to you.

Answer 8

go to "MTV's Made"? it's a joke.

just try to be more outgoing.

yeah i know this answer is c**p.

Answer 9

wow...hmm well im sorta like u...i jes started being un shy :-) cuz i was a tomboy so i fixed the problem by being a girly girl now :-)..umm id watch everyone 1st n pick which one's wuld b rlly GOOD friends n  not like ur old ones...id give other ppl compliments to get em back! :) n try to find ppl that are interested in the same things like u..an ya ^_^ maybe u shuld add me online so i culd rlly try to help :S lol

Answer 10

Hey Kevin ur not making her populur ur making her a ****!

Answer 11

ok well coming from a 16 year old boy(me) ive noticed that the girls dat usually get popular in my school are usually in large groups with other girls. u could probly join groups that are already popular or you could hang out with just your friend but when like this u have to be very loud and outspoken so dat people will notice you. you have to develope a unique personality. do like wat new york did on flavor flav. look at her now she is getting her own fame... it wouldnt hurt to dress hot and act a little bitchy as ive seen dat its the popular thing now a days even dough i wont strongly recomend it...lol but i know u know where im coming from...

hope ive been of good help to u! wish u luck!