How do I handle my 9 year old and his constant lying? ?

Question

How to handle my 9 year old and his constant lying?

Answer 1

maybe ask him why he lies to you and tell him that lies can get him in a lot of trouble

if you havent allready

Answer 2

I heard this strategy once. Set it up in advance by saying "Friday will be a special day." Build up the anticipation all week. When Friday comes, tell him you're going to fix him his favorite breakfast--then don't do it. Tell him you're going to the movies that night--then don't do it. Tell him you're going to buy his favorite toy--then don't do it. Etc etc etc. At the end of the day, ask him if he figured out what made the day so special. That's right, it was Lying Day! How did it make him feel? That will help him realize the consequences and build his empathy.

Answer 3

9 is a tough age. Depends if they are little fibs or major lies. In my opinion, lying has to do with a communication problem and trust. My 12 year old and I have an open relationship and he knows he can tell me anything, no matter how bad it is. If he does lie, he's knows there will be consequences. Computer taken away, etc. Losing something they like is a huge motivator in being honest. Lying, especially to mom or dad, is lack of respect. If you don't have that, then it may be a down hill battle. Build the trust and teach him there are consequences for not telling the truth. Good luck. :-)