How do I handle my crazy mother in law?

Question

I have been with my husband for 3 years and we have a 12 month old together. My mother in law insists on being in my business, critisizes everything i do and makes comments that are so rude you just want to smack her! Just recently I told her to not cross my boundaries ever again. She now says i am not welcome in her home? How do i deal with holidays and family get togethers b/c of our son, her grandson?She holds grudges and is a very immature woman. Please help.This is causing problems in my marriage and me emotionally.

Answer 1

Mine always was too.

I took it for eight years and then my husband had minor surgery. When I brought him home, went to the store to get prescriptions filled and groceries I came back and got us settled in. She showed up with groceries. I had no place to put them. My refrigerator was full and most of what she had needed it. I had no idea she was doing it and she let off on me and reminded me she was his mother. I let her have eight years worth in about fifteen minutes that day. It took her a year to come back around. To this day she knows her place and she respects me a lot more.

Don't let it build up. Don't put your husband in the middle. Deal with it yourself and let her know her limitations with you.

What you did was the right thing to do. It will take time for her to heal from it. If she does the relationship you have will be better for it. If she doesn't then it is of her choice, not yours.

You can not changer her, don't try. You can not make her see you in a way she does not want to, don't try. Accept her as she is and distance yourself from the bad of her.

And let me add it took that long for my husband to finally step in and let her know she was out of bounds. I was grateful he did. His thought was she raised him, he was use to it. He knew how to ignore it after all the years of living with her. He never knew how it festered in me until I told him. Let your husband know how deeply you feel about this and let him stand up for you. If he doesn't kick him in the butt and let him know you will do it again if he does not get the cobwebs out!

Answer 2

Slap that ***** silly! LOL

Answer 3

Gosh, I think the thing I hate the most is mother in laws. It is such a hard situation to be in when your mother in law is just rude and inconsiderate. I think its time for your husband to step in (which he should have done a long time ago). He needs to sit down and talk with her and with you altogether and let her know how her attitude is affecting your marriage and you personally. You should not have to fight with family because there are worse things in this world so try talking with her or writing a letter but something needs to be said because that isn't a healthy environment for you little boy.