How do I handle my daughters?

Question

My daughters are 13 and 15. recently i changed my life and quit smoking and some other things as well. my kids begged me to do this for years. now that i have, they are exerimenting with some of the same things they begged me to give up. how do i handle this?

Answer 1

sorry to say monkey see monkey do, your kids are just doing what you did. You just need to be open and talk wiht them let them know you are there for them. remind them that they new it was bad for you.

Answer 2

You'll have to lay the law down with them.

Be a parent.

If they don't listen, take some privileges away. Embarrass them in front of their friends. Do what it takes to get your point across. Extra chores won't hurt them either. You can start smoking again too. Obviously it didn't hurt them as much as they claimed.  

Answer 3

just tell them how ugly and wrinkly they'll be by 30.

Answer 4

1 tell them to stop

2 beat their ***

3 beat their *** in front of friends

4 beat their friends ***, its their fault

5 tell them if they continue probation

6 probation

Answer 5

Continue to model good behavior, while letting them know you don't approve of their current choices.    If they try the old" but you used to smoke routine" tell them " Your right I USED to, and I don't want you to get hooked"  Don't be afraid to look through their room, or backpacks to look for smokes etc. Some people think it's an invasion of privacy, but my theory is that their are differences between personal space & privacy.  I respect the first, and give little of the other, as long as I make the decisions.