How do I handle my evil sister-in law, and my in-laws that stick up for them?

Question

She has done everything from steal money from me, call my kids white trash, and spread rumors about me behind my back. I am a very nice person and have put up with my husbands family for too long. The whole family demands attention, and pretends they spend lots of time and money on my children, but in reality they just take away from my family and drive me and my husband insane. How should I deal with them, but still be sane?

Answer 1

Just see his family on a limited basis. Holidays and events such as birthdays. Don't be going over there on Sundays or inviting them to your home either unless it is a special event. The best way to deal with people like this is just see them infrequently.

Answer 2

Your husband is the weakest link in this equation.

He is not laying down the rules to his family about what type of things he will or will not accept.

Thus, you must now show the backbone he lacks.

1. Get caller ID an voice mail

2. Only answer when you feel like it

3. Stop all invites to the house for all reasons

4. Have the b-day parties for the kids outside of the home. (eg. park, McDonalds, etc...)

5. Send pictures of the family via mail

6. When you go to their house do not take your purse or expensive items

7. Do not tell them any private information

If they are not allowed in to steal they cant.

If they know none of your info they cant gossip.

Best wishes

Answer 3

Your husband should put his foot down with them, he needs to be the bad guy here not you!  He needs to let them know that it is not ok for them to treat you the way they do.  He has to set the pace.