How do I handle this without upsetting my boss?

Question

I am a nanny for a great family. I bring my two boys with me (when they aren't in school) and they get along great with the older two boys I care for and are all close in age (they also have a 1 yr old as well). The problem I am having is when the mom arrives home and it's time for us to leave, her two boys always want to come with me to our house so they can keep playing with my kids. As soon as the mom walks in they start asking and begging if they can come over. Sometimes I have a legitimate reason they can't such as we have plans but I can't say that every time and I don't want to lie in front of my kids. When she gets home I am usually ready to just head home with my two and while I don't mind once in awhile it gets to be crazy.

The mom is not very helpful as she usually says "it's fine with me if it's ok with Shelly (that's what they call me)" then I feel on the spot. I feel like unless we have plans then I don't have a good reason to say no. I feel like saying "no I just don't want them over today.", is mean.

How would you handle this? The kids start back to school next week so it won't be as big of a deal then but on school vacations and such I still deal with this.

Answer 1

just be honest and say that today's not a good day and pick a day that they can come with you but that you will be bringing them back at such and such time and stick to it. it shouldn't take but once or twice and she should get the message.

I have had this happen so many times that I have became thick skinned to their pleas and moms lack of respect for me. she is hoping to get a break after working all day but unless she is prepared to pay you extra then its not your problem once your time is up. hope this helps.

Answer 2

talk to the parents when the children are not around im sure she would understand because she is a parent her self  

Answer 3

you have been with her children all day. you dont have to watch them for a free at night as well. also she may be hurt that when she comes home her children dont want to spend time with her. she need to say no and understand that while you love and care for her children. you are an employee and need some family time with your children as well. you dont always want her children around. she needs to sit down and talk to her children and let them know unless you ask that they will not be going to your house. they should spend time with her at home and you have spent the whole day watching them. good luck