How do I help a kid change her emo ways?

Question

She cuts, she says she hates everyone (but she really doesn't), she drinks and smokes because her friends do it. It is such a despicable culture because it doesn't bring anything positive to her. Has anybody been able to change from emo to just being a regular kid AND were you able to learn to deal with life in a healthy way???

Answer 1

Emo's are not weird. Some of my friends are emo but they don't cute. That's bad, esp. if your not really emo, your just doing it cuz your friends are.

Answer 2

i think maybe she's just looking for attention and it seems like she will do anything to get it!

cutting is serious though so you have to try and get her to stop that!

perhaps she feels like you are being too controlling and is being a rebel?

telling her to stop and act 'regular' isn't going to help though you need to let her express herself -but not let her do any self-harming stuff.

sit her down and talk to her, tell her she can dress and listen to what she wants etc but she has to stop with the cutting the drinking and the smoking. tell her you care about her and you only want whats best. it might work..it might not. in the future she might mature and change her ways or she might not, either way she is your daughter and it's your job to love her no matter how she turns out in life.

Answer 3

Did you even bother to ask her if she wants to change? Because no one will change unless they make a decision to change.

Cutting is not an "emo" thing, it's an addiction. Some kids start doing it because they have real problems and can't handle the pain, others do it for attention. Find out which she's doing it for. Cutting can lead to permanent nerve damage, scars, infection, and death. It becomes addictive because when you cut your brain releases endorphins to cope with the pain, and those give you a natural high. It's a serious thing, and she needs to stop.

She sounds like she caught up in a dangerous and stupid fad. If she is underage turn her in for drinking and smoking. It's not being a narc, it's helping.

Answer 4

how old is she?  sounds more like borderline personality disorder, especially the cutting part.  i'd take her to a psychiatrist.  if she does have this disorder, then medication will help enormously.  you'd take her to a Dr for anything else wrong in her body, right?  this is no different.

Answer 5

An emo kid will remain an emo kid until they outgrow it, usually.

The cutting is scary.

Counseling might be necessary for that one.

Otherwise, don't worry about it.

She's not in a great place right now, but kids usually outgrow the "dark phase".

Answer 6

leave her alone

Answer 7

Depends if she wants to change.

You cannot force her.

You also have to look at other factors such as home life.

She could have emotional trauma or something else along those lines.

If you want to help her, just let her know that you are there for her.

Just be a friend.

Answer 8

What do you define as a "regular" kid? I say this because no one is a regular kid. Everyone has their problems. Don't be ignorant.

What you can do to help her is take her to counseling, that is, if you are her parent. If you aren't her mother or a close relative then there is nothing you can do. Teenagers are very angsty and -for the most- part obstinate. You can talk to her, but she probably won't listen.

Answer 9

Well just tell her the truth. straight out, but only if she is a true friend. You can't make her change that is her choice to make. But you can still try. Tell her how you feel and what she is doing to her self and to others especially her family.  

Answer 10

i am hungry

what should i eat?

chips? banana? sandwich? or what?

somebody tell me what i should eat

eww emo's are weirdos

Answer 11

make every1 ignore her(it might take her pleasure away) if that dosnt work  she needs help!

Answer 12

Okay...here's the deal...if she is actually depressed then you can't do anything until she realizes it and wants to change. I myself was extremely depressed when i was younger. I was a cutter and I went from anorexia to bulimia in a matter of a few years. To this day i deal with depression and my body image. It has to come from within. If she is just doing it to "fit in" then there is nothing you can do. I never told anyone about my "habits" because it wasn't something i was proud of...i did it because I didn't know how to cope...it sounds to me like she may just be looking for attention and will more than likely grow out of it.