How do I help my 7yr old daughter who acts out occasionally but violently at school, with no obvious reason?

Question

How do I help my 7yr old daughter who acts out occasionally but violently at school, with no obvious reason?

Answer 1

WHIP HER ***!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Answer 2

try and set up some sort of home and school reward system, with golden time for good behavior all week at school and the same at home and maybe try and get her a learning mentor, did have the same problem with my son fighting, it took a couple of months to work but i found out he was bored so i got him moved on from the rest of the class with his work and with the reward system this helped him to calm down both at home and at school!

Good luck

Answer 3

spank her and punisher her its what usually works

Answer 4

counsel her wisely... dont use force...

Answer 5

She might seek your attention and gives her frustration out at school. No child gets violent without reason. Sit down and talk to her, allow her to open her heart, be kind and get her confidence, it must be done very delicate. She is only 7, keep your countenance. And never forget that by punishing her that you'll never get a  positive result. The soul of such a small girl is tender and vulnerable and easily hurt.

Answer 6

Since I am a proponent of home schooling my first suggestion would be to take your daughter out of the school system and educate her at home.

Likely she has problems at school that she isn't telling you about and the teacher is not noticing.

Answer 7

i would suggest a mentor.

Answer 8

Punish her in whatever way you think, and if that doesn't work, try having a face to face conversation with her.

Answer 9

First I would talk to her and try to find out the cause of her acting out in school.  Someone might be bullying her at school and causing her to do this.

If she does not talk to you about it; maybe you should go speak to her teacher and see if he or she knows of any possible reason for it.

Hopefully one of those will work.  Dealing with a child who acts out is not fun.

I will tell you how I deal with mine when they act out and they are 8 and 10; both girls.  First of all I do home school; but there are days that they fuss and do not want to do the work.  With mine sometimes they do fuss because they do not exactly understand something I am teaching them and this causes them to get upset.  In this case; I tell them to please ask when you need help instead of getting upset.  If the problem persists; I give whoever is acting up (usually the 10 yr. old) a time out in her room making her do the work on her own; but only if understanding it is not the problem.  Another thing I do is take away privileges; but I do reward them for good behavior such as video game time, TV time, or pretend play time.

Maybe your daughter is upset when she does not understand the work being given to her and is afraid to say something about it.  Whatever the case is; the best thing you can do for her is talk to her.  When you talk; keep an open mind above all things as this will be most helpful to her.  If all that fails then you might want to take her to get some help from a counselor as just maybe she would feel better talking to someone other than her parent.

I wish you the best of luck in solving your problem.

Answer 10

talk to her and ask what is bothering her. let her talk and get it all and explain to you. just listen and don't be critical of what she is saying because if you do she may never want to express herself again. you must be a good parent then if she tells you something surprising or something that makes you angery( like someone raped her) don't go crazy remain calm and handle the situation in a rational way so that she will feel free to tell you stuff like this all the time. Just really listen and don't think your a bad parent or your child is bad just think that you have a probelm to solve.

Answer 11

She is your lovely & small daughter so we can't change her actibity by punish. You just take her opinion and remind to her in lovely word to be well in coming day.

Answer 12

does she have the health issue knows as erm...forgot the name but the kids are hyper active..ADHD is it called i think? does she have a heart problem? has she had any previous heart conditions? u knw when occasionally, a child is born with soem heart defect like hole in the heart or something? i know some child who had that and they dint knw why she was acting sooo violent and crazy at such a young age. found out she had a problem with heart and got it sorted. it sorted her violent behaviour coz the stress on the heart was relieved. so yup...dont whip her! gosh! thats violent in its self (what would u be teaching her as a parent?!?! bleep to the person who said that above!) theres reasons behind everything! u need to find it. is she getting bullied at school making her react like that? there MUST be something...find it and sort it! could she be sexually abused? (sorry but i HAD to be realsitic) or something by someone like step parent or elder bro or sis or cousin or uncle or someone!!! things do happen and its been heard of. just be careful or she gunna be retarded in head and u dont wnat that! not a 7yr old...pleeease NO!

Answer 13

I recently saw a documentary on Discovery Health that many children with this behavior pattern have in addition to ADD a "low arousal" point in their brain which doesn't allow them to change these impulses. Punishing her will not change that. I would definitely consult a doctor and ask him. It was something that could be corrected and really needs to be for her to succeed in life.

Answer 14

First of all no child acts out violently for no reason. Whether she has learned to act violently from observation or simply as a means to get attention or due to frustration, there is a reason. Speak w/your child, ask her about her day, who her friends are (they're big influencers at this age), what shes does at school. Ask if she has difficulty with any particular subject or dislikes some activity. If someone at school is teasing her, is she being left out of activites (Eg. Does the teacher call on her to answer questions and participate or is she ignored). Does she have a best friend in class? Is she being bullied on the playground (a big cause of violent behavior). Find out what her life at school is like, you'll likely figure out what's really going on. Volunteer to particpate in classroom actvities, or contributr to special occasions if possible, school fieldtrips etc. It makes a huge difference, especially in lower grades.

Answer 15

Talk to her and see what is bothering her..if that fails, take something away she values until she behaves..it's soooo easy to give advice, it's hard living with the problem..good luck..

Answer 16

Talk to her but do NOT shout