How do I help my BFFL???

Question

so my BFF is really thin she is 93lbs & is 12 years old She isn't under weight really but for sure not the least bit overweight at all the problem is the other night she just told me out of the blue the she was going vegatarian it came as a shock 2 me I tried 2 support her with this descision but earlier I was worried because she spent the night and all she ate today was water a small bowl of corn flakes and noodles, no sauce from morning 2 night I tried to explain 2 her that vegatarians have to eat tofu which she HATES and soy products SHE FINDS THEM GROSS for protein but she wont listen to me then we started fighting and she told me that there was a reason she was doing this and she thinks she is fat and if she stops eating alot of stuff that she will lose weight SHE IS STARVING HER SELF and cutting protein out of diet which is bad and she has been going to the b-room after every 'meal' and I wonder if she is making herself throw up she has an eating disorder I know but HOW DO HELP

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Uh, you have to eat tofu and soy to get protein? Where'd you hear that load of BS?

If your friend thinks that she is fat, she must definitely have an eating disorder but just hasn't become super thin yet.

Bread, pasta, beans, pea, lentils, nuts and seeds all contain protein. Vegetables even have a little bit that can add up throughout the day.

Answer 3

talk to her parents about it and let them handle it it's better in their hands

Answer 4

maybe talk to her parents, because this could be serious.

Talkl to your parents, or maybe a doctor, or someone who can help.

Answer 5

make her go to a doctor or a phycologist.  and talk to her parents, your a good friend for caring

Answer 6

Try to get her to talk with her parents or adult she trusts.  This is a big problem, and she needs help.  I know how much you want to help her and the best thing you can do is get an adult or professional who knows what to do.

Answer 7

TELL HER SHES NOT OVER WEIGHT IM 11 AND I WEIGH 96.4

Answer 8

try reading her some other cases like hers and tell her how bad they end up see if that might change her mind

Answer 9

Tell her parents!!!..now!

Answer 10

Vegetarianism is not related to eating disorders.  Vegetarians also do not have to eat tofu.  If you are concerned about her, tell her parents.

Answer 11

Veggs are healthy for you but they need nuts for protein. Peanut butter and other nut products are great for very strict vegetarians. Not eating meat or animal products is a personal choice and if done properly IE: eat a healthy, balanced diet of fruit, vegs and nuts, she will be fine.

Answer 12

Her issues have nothing to do with vegetarianism.  Sounds like she might have an eating disorder.  Is there a counselor at school you can speak with about this?

By the way, vegetarians do not have to eat tofu or soy products, but a lot of us like to.  ;)

Answer 13

(Just so you know, there are vegetarians who are allergic to soy) ANYWAYS to your question: this isnt a matter of vegetarianism, she is trying to cover up an eating disorder. You need to tell her parents. PLEASE, my friend had bullimia, and she almost died.

Answer 14

She needs protein. She should work out to stay slender, but keep eating good food. I would try to talk to an adult near you to see how you can help her, if she keeps up like this it will not be good. I'm proud of you for worrying about her, it lets people know you are a good friend, wish there were more friends like you out there.

Answer 15

My cousin was just as small at that age, but she had healthy eating habits. It sounds like your friend has at least one eating disorder and she needs help immediately. Please don't hesitate to tell anyone(parents, teachers,etc.) that can give her medical assistance.

Answer 16

Tell her mother! Your such a good friend for being concerned!

Answer 17

convince her of your side of the story

like that paragraph, right there

and if she is truely who you care about

and you keep persisting

she will eventually break down and listen

have you told her parents about this?

im sure they would like to know, and can help both you and her

Answer 18

I am a vegetarian myself, and i don't eat a bowl of cereal for my meal. i have ACTUAL meals. Tell her she needs to eat properly she's only 12 years old, her body is still growing, if her body doesn't get enough nutrients her body will just eat itself, and you know it doesnt turn out to be so good looking.

So if she's trying to be healthy, tell her to start small with carrots, cucumbers, for snacks and then go on with other cooked vegetables.

If you can cook them, they will taste veryy good!

Since she doesnt like soy products, tell her to try those soy bean burgers, oh my gosh they are delicious! she will love them! you can get the chicken flavoured ones too, they taste just like chicken!

If shes throwing up, tell her its not cool. throwing up is REALLY bad, it weakens your stomach and all those other organs..

I tried to help, tell her if she doesn't eat properly she's going to have to face some health problems! oh and tell her parents if things get worse!

Answer 19

I would talk to her about it. Just be like "I'm really worried about you, and I want to help. Throwing up and not eating is NOT a way to solve your problem". I would also look up some pictures on photobucket or google of anorexic and bulimic people and say "is that what you want to look like??" if that doesn't work then telll her parents about it immediately.

Answer 20

To tell an adult u can trust.

Answer 21

Just sit back and watch for a while. Try not to comment on how she's eating, but if it gets worse, you might want to talk to her parents or someone. She may realize what she's doing and how it could affect her.

Answer 22

when I was 12 yrs old I weighed 96 lbs. I didn;t eat much because I wasn't hungry and when I did eat I felt sick to my stomach, so I would throw up that was my bodys way of telling me that I didn't need to eat that much to keep me going. Just becasue you eat one way and some else eats a whole diffrent way it don't mean that they have a disorder. You body gose through diffrent stages and changes when puberty hits some girls feel very hungry and some don't maybe your friend isn't really hungry but your making her feel bad about herself and she eats then feels sick so she throws everything up just to please you.

Answer 23

ik u probably don't want to hurt her or betray her or something, but tell her parents and get them to help her and get her to the doctors or something. Its a life threatening thing if she does have an eating disorder

Answer 24

okay my aunts friend was like that she told  me about it no lie she told someone and got her help also you can do alot of outher things like sit her down and explain to her its not good also that shes doing wrong shes not fat and is close to being under weight and she could possibly kill herself from this wink wink okay loots of thing you could do email me too for more help

Answer 25

Tell her parents or call a doctor or tell her your trying to help.

Answer 26

well first of all she should tell her parents what she is doing because it's going to be really hard becoming a vegetarian when everybdoy in your family is eating meat. she'll probably give in soon though, meat is irresistable and not eating meat wont neccesarily make you lose weight.

Answer 27

She may very well have Bulimia and Anorexia. A girl who suffers from bulimia is also obsessed with being thin. Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder that causes a girl to starve herself. She developed special rituals as a way to avoid food (such as becoming a vegetarian). As she gets thinner and thinner, she may begin to have serious medical problems. Also, she goes to the bathroom a lot to force herself to vomit, usually. Now this is just some cases. She may be just a little timid about what she eats. But ask her (just in case) if she knows anything about these eating disorders and/or that she could have serious medical problems that come with continuing to eat like that. Tell her she's not overweight and to be confident with herself.

Hope this helps!! :)

Answer 28

just talk to her.

but i kno from yur friends point of view. its hard. yur not under weigh. or over weight yur healthy. but boys like sticks. well thats what we think. i had a bad eating disorder i went 2 weeks with out eating anything.  talk to her. just say "you kno i love yu. yur my best frined! i want to help you! if yu want to lose weight. then lets go running. and on a GOOD diet. if yu want to go vegatarian then do it the right way! eat fruite and veggies and no meat...meat products!" i weighted 92 lbs. and all the sudden went up to 105 and i thought i was soo big. thats when my eating disorder happened. now i weigh 99 im 14 and i eat healty. so just be her friend. and tell a cousler.

hope i helped

:D

jessi

Answer 29

wow. i can try to help as much as possible because ive been in a situation almost exactly like this, but i was the vegetarian, and im EXTREMELY picky. my mom gets soooo mad at me because i dont eat right. im 14 and 104lbs. im at a perfect weight and everything.

when i started the whole vegetarian thing, i figured it would be easy. but its not. at all. i hate like every vegetable, i dont like many protien-filled things, like eggs. ugh i hate eggs. i didnt think i would like tofu at all, but my mom made me try it and its not bad. your friend doesnt have to eat soy products, i dont. she might want to see a nutritionist, i did. its not that bad there. she helped me see what food i liked, and what i could make for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks. it helped a lot and im eating better than i did. im still not doing that great at it, but i try really hard.

your friend doesnt have to eat all kinds of weird vegetarian food or anything like that. you should talk to her, tell her your worried about her, and tell her what she can do to get help./ she could just go to a nutritionist with her parents, like i did, or even go online and look up some stuff. i did that too

well , i hoped something i said helped--good luck!

Answer 30

looks like the only thing you can do is inform her parents, if you don't want to get her mad maybe you could do it ananomously?

Answer 31

What's a BFFL?

If she's only 12, she shouldn't be on a diet; sounds like it could be a case of incipient anorexia nervosa. She needs to see a doctor - preferably one who specializes in anorexia and bulimia.

Her parents should have a strong say in what she eats, under the guidance of a doctor if necessary.