How do I improve my confidence and reaction time?

Question

In my whole life I've always been a quiet guy. But I have fair share of friends. But I always struggle when conversing with others. Even when I'm talking to people I feel my confidence is very low. This is clearly evident when talking to girls, even meeting girls. How do I put myself out there without embarrasing myself. I'm also very concerned about my physical appearence. Sometimes I don't know what to say. Then later i'll beat myself up mentally, saying stuff like "You're an idiot".

After talking to a girl...about five minutes later I'll say to myself "Ohh I should have said "_______" that would have been really funny. And it usually is kinda funny. But I don't think of it until minutes later.

At work there is this girl, that is beautiful. I'm able to make her laugh every now and then, which feels good. And i've heard her say that I'm cute, after I make her laugh (like twice) It seems like I try to hard. Some people seem to do it effortlessly.

I'm going into my second year of college, and I'd like to find a girlfriend.

Can someone please help me.

Answer 1

second year of college and still no girlfriend. Well, i am a girl and what i like to see in guys is their own personality. Put yourself out there and be yourself. it is always easier to be yourself instead of working to be someone you are not. just act normal and you know you have found the right girl when she likes you for who you are.

Answer 2

Practice.

When you're alone, sing out loud.

When you're watching TV alone, talk to the actors.

It may sound foolish, but this is a good way to practice.  

Answer 3

Dang dude, Im alot like you. I can relate. But dude, you got a huge shot here, just ask her if she wants to go out some time.