How do I know if a man wants me to sleep with me or to have a real relationship?

Question

I am terrible at knowing if I am being chatted up just for s*x, or because a man really wants to get to know me, to be with me. What signs are there that I will be just used?

I am so confused, I have stayed single for ages because of this, but I want to love & feel really loved.

When is it best to not contact the guy so I want scare him off. Or should I be forward?

Answer 1

Hi Anj

If you like the guy, spend some time with him. Take it slow, if he wants a relationship he will be patient. Guys are just as afraid of commitment too soon

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Answer 2

Don't sleep with him.

If he's cool and he waits, you have an answer. It takes me awhile to sleep with someone, and I find it an effective way to weed out some of the bad guys. Of course, there's always a chance to get hurt when you let people in.

But, you will never find love being too afraid to get hurt that you never even take a chance.

Answer 3

Thats easy, if you don't put out right away and he gets mad, there is a good chance he only wants one thing from you, any girl that I truly like and want to have a relationship, I would be willing to wait for it.

Answer 4

All the men who date you do that because they want to sleep with you.But the one who wants s*x only would know how to push you and take advantage with in short time. Real love and serious relationship could be achieved only with your qualities and your ability to give and take. You are loved for your ability to reflect your kindness, tolerance and accommodation. Always be considerate and show interest to your partner but take time to know and understand him before taking him to the bed.