How do I know if it will be worth it?

Question

I have been with my girlfriend for over a year, and there's no denying that I love her more than I ever thought I could love anyone. We have been through so much together, and I honestly can't see my life without her in it, and she feels the same about me.

The problem is, we are at a point right now where it's hard to see each other as much as we would like. Sometimes we are away from each other for a couple weeks at a time, and it's taking a toll on our relationship. We argue ALOT (over the phone, we hardly ever argue/fight when we are together), over the dumbest things that don't really even matter. It's just like we are both so stressed out right now, and I feel like we are drifting apart. I hate this feeling. We both just want to be happy again like we used to be, and we are doing everything we can to see each other more often, but it's really difficult because money is tight and gas prices are outrageous. I am at a loss. What can I do? How do I know if it's even worth it?

Answer 1

Gosh...sounds exactly like what i was going through. And since then me and my boyfriend have broken up.

And i have had to ask myself some serious questions.

First off, how old are you?

Because everyone told me and my bf that we are young and there will be more people in our lives, but that doesn't matter when you have found the one.

So another question to ask yourself, can you see yourself with her through thick and thin? When she is 80 and has wrinkles? Do you think you have a future together at this moment in time?

Something else to consider...maybe right now, it just isn't working for both of you, so stay friends. It will be extremely hard to do...but maybe a couple of years from now when you guys are at the same place in your lives...start the relationship up again and that stress will be gone.

And you will know if its worth it if you can't imagine your life without her in some fashion, wether it be friends or more than that. But this is something you are going to have to decide on your own...make sure to talk about it with her though, get her thoughts on the situation.

Much luck, and hope you don't go through too much heartache.

Answer 2

Wow. I am so going through the same thing. But see.. I don't know what to do either. It hurts I know.. : (

-Jada

Answer 3

It is look how you feel about her and look how she feels about you. Being to far apart does take a toll out alot. Here is what you can do for her though to make her happy since she is so far apart from you. Send her a dozen of roses write to her every other day right before you see her like a week before you two plan to see each other get on the phone with her and just tell her you cant waite for her to kiss you and hug you and jump on you and rap the legs around you. Its the simple things you have to do in a relationship...making her happy right...well dont let the whole we cant see each other get in the way...do something she would least expect. And it would be almost like the ol times