How do I know if my mom is lying to me?

Question

My mom is living with her friend Ada who Has chromes diseases and no she is not g*y. But I know she started drinking beer again after our divorce and i was going to come over to her house today but she said that she had to take ada to the hospital because ada was having pains. But i don't know if my mom is lying about ada and just using her to cover up the drinking and she can't drive while drunk and stuff. But i don't know if this is true or not and she said i can come over to her house tomorrow but that is weird because how does she know that ada will come out of the hospital tomorrow, if she is really in the hospital? how do i know that she isn't lying to me?

Answer 1

their are a few tale tale sighs about noticing if people are lying even if they are telling you a lie right to your face their are numerous ways 1 that i have used for a while is when someone tells you something and they are looking write at you and they break eye contact right when there getting to the punch line and go right back to eye contact right after there is something else their thinking about and it well be could be the lie there telling you.(if you want to even give it a try with a friend just for kicks you will notice that break in eye contact it is easier to lie to someone when you don't even need to look at them.(good luck)

Answer 2

I think if you feel she has a drinking problem, deal with it directly. Tell her you are worried about her drinking. Go to a support group. If she is drinking, she very well might be lying. That's what people due to cover up their drinking oftentimes.

Answer 3

This will not answer your question but. I have a daughter that would rather stand in a tree and lie than stand on the ground and tell the truth.

Fact is. I  usually knew the answers before i asked he the questions.

I stopped asking questions a long time ago.

While i do not want to seem like i am taking sides here but, how much do you know about Chromes disease. It is painful, unpredictable.

If you have a fair relationship with your mother, i would not push the issue. I truly understand your concern.

The daughter i spoke of has 2 adult daughters and a 13 yr. old son who now lives with his father.

She has no communication with her children and it has gotten so bad that neither side wants to budge.

Now you have to ask yourself. Do i want to put a gap like this between myself and my mother?

The time will come when you both will need each other. It never fails and it is awkward when that time comes if you are not on good terms.

Good luck

Answer 4

yeah sounds like something fishy is going on ,because the things your mom are telling you,dont add up.

why would she feel the need to lie?obviously its to cover something up she feels asamed or bad about or something wrong she is doing.sounds like she needs some help ,as shes in a bit of a mess.

talk to her and tell her in a tactful way ,that you are worried and has she anything to tell you,if she doesnt tell you the truth ,you are going to have to get it out of her ,by telling her what you think is happening outright.

communication is the key to solve things.if she continues to lie,you will have to take the hardline arpproach and be cruel to be kind and tell her you wont talk to her until she can be honest with you.let her know you are doing this because you care and you dont want any harm to come to her.