How do I leave my fiance?

Question

I've been with my fiance for almost two years now. Things were great in the beginning, but things always are in the beginning of the relationship. We met six years ago in the military, lost touch and found eachother again. I ended up moving to another state to be with him. I had already had a child, but I took the risk cause I believed he was who he said he was. I ended up getting pregnate a few months after moving. We were both very happy. After the birth of our daughter things changed. I did start to notice it while I was pregnate too. I became a stay at home mom in the middle of my pregnacy due to a car accident and not being able to work anymore. Although I loved my children, I hated feeling that I was dependant on my fiance. Since my daughter has been born I have been completly exhausted. He hasn't really helped at all. If he does its because I have to bug him about it. I have no appreciation at all, I'm up with the kids at 8am feeding them,entertaining them, taking them out to their appointments, and put them to bed, I'm also cleaning the house, doing laundry, and taking care of our dog. I'm usually up until midnight taking care of the house so it doesn't get out of control dirty and I'm up all night with my daughter. I, as you can see, get no sleep. He complains that he needs sleep to go to work and thats why he won't help me at night, but during the day is really no excuse for him not to help me. He thinks that I'm just watching TV all day or whatever, but I'm not. If anyone is a stay at home mom, they know how exhausting kids can be. We've done the counciling, we've talked... but nothing changes. He will be helpful for a day, maybe two, then back to the same thing again. I'm just done with this relationship. I've been a single mom before and I can do it again. The problem is I don't know anyone where I am. I have no money, no job, and no place to go. The car is in his name since mine was totaled. I don't think I can just take it since it's legally his car. I'm not on the bank account, so I have no access to money. I do not have family I can stay with, and very few friends.... the ones that I did make in the area I've only known for a few months and they have their own families, I would feel wrong intruding. My fiance is not abusive so I can not go to a shelter. Any advice would be so helpful. I now regret moving out of state so I do not have resources as I did where I was before.

Answer 1

This is deep!! First you made it clear that your kids keep you busy all day and I respond by saying "that's a good mother"!! Now, 1.Men ain't good at motherhood, so you may not want his help with that anyway. 2. Never look for an ordinary man to recognize how much work and stress it really is raising kids, that's why you will get no appreciation from him. 3. While women are much more mature than us when it comes to real life situations, men seem (by nature) not to take things seriously (such as making a baby).4. Him moving you away from all your family and friends could have been part of the plan because he could have known you would become dependent on him. 5.You seem to be a "SUPERWOMAN" from the description in your question and thousands of men are looking for that!! I say... stay on the internet and socialize a little and see who pops up, maybe another man is your way out!! He's taking you for granted because you're alone in that town. But meet a friend and ignor his needs and wants for a while because the best way to get a man's attention is not to pay him any!!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 2

i dont think living him would make a difference, i dont think it would help

Answer 3

haha  

Answer 4

sounds like you have made your bed on this one. unless you have some family that would come and get you i would suggest you just deal with him for a while longer. try to get a job when you can and make your own money so you can get a car. no you can not take his car. your not married so you can't get any support from him if you leave. guys are usually unappreciative. i am not a mom but i am a housewife and i do everything. laundry,dishes, vaccuming, keeping the house straight. in your situation it might be better to deal with it.  

Answer 5

What you are experincing is life...find pleasure in what you do have. ,,

one day at a time and keep in mind things can always be worse, if you leave under the conditions you stated you will basically be homeless not really an alternative with a small child.