How do I let go of my past so I can live happily at home with my family?

Question

I am the eldest and my parents were really hard on me as a kid, Im older now and they are more relaxed with me, but my younger siblings get away with SO MUCH more then i did at their age....

i want to let go and now be jealous but i cant help but compare myself to them when i was thier age, my parents treat them so much kinder...

how to i let go of this so that i can be rid of this animosity?

Answer 1

oh, you're not alone at all!! as time changes our society changes, and the way we parent changes. you're the first born and hence, your parents likely have higher hopes for you. it's just a normal expectation from parents. my little bro is so much more relaxed in many ways compared to me at his age... but you have to know that that's how ur parents felt they should do at the time when you were young. they are more relaxed with you now, so at least they are relaxed with all their children at the same time and not treating on unfairly compared to the rest, right?

kids nowadays are more difficult to discipline and i'm sure your parents are realizing that old methods may not work anymore.

sit down and use humor to discuss about your past with your parents "oh, remember how u treated me when i did that? <younger bro> gets away with the same thing i did! you guys have lost ur fire!"

see how they respond-- maybe they'll be able to explain the different treatment applied.

Ifyour siblings are turning into brats, you do have to let your parents know. but if your siblings are good kids, then just accept it~ parenting skills change, be glad that your parents are willing to change and not be as stubborn as some other parents.

Answer 2

Get a bunch of balloons and take them out to someplace outdoors that you like, a place with serenity where you can be alone. Voice each of your resentments, one at a time. After each one, blow into a balloon. When the balloon is full, tie it off. Stand there for a moment, remembering which resentments are in the balloon. Then, LET IT GO, and watch it go away. Do this as many times as you want, until all of your resentments are gone. If you feel the need, do it twice. Just get rid of all of it.

Think how light you're going to feel! Good luck to you.