How do I let go of the anger?

Question

I found out she was sleeping with someone, while she was "allowing" me to do the little things in her life. Fixing things, spending time with her kids, doing things for them, etc., etc.

I realize now that I was someone she turned to because she could count on me. I know I allowed myself to be used.

But...

I feel foolish for being angry, but I feel so much fury. What can I do?

Answer 1

Perhaps she's relying to you because you're the only one whom she really trusts.  For me, I let go of anger by listening to really loud music. Hope this helps...

Answer 2

Listen to angry music,  workout,yell out loud better someplace no one will hear you, punch things like a bag or something soft you don't want to hurt yourself or someone, talk to a close friend about your feelings

Answer 3

Don't feel foolish. You just thought that you were more than her handyman. If she was allowing you to do all of these things for her, while knowing the way you felt, then she was just using you. You have a right to be angry. Don't try to convince yourself that you are not angry, deal with it now and move on. I am sure that you will find someone more deserving than her. Shame on her and count yourself lucky that you dodged a bullet.

Answer 4

buy a punching bag with punching gloves and punch the sh*t out of the bag. its not your fault for any of this. she used you. thats it. she's in the wrong. you were being a gentlemen.

now go out and buy that punching bag!