My 13 yr old angel (:-) decided to go live with her dad, his girlfriend and their new baby (her 1/2 brother). My daughter bad mouthed me and continues to in order to get in good and quick with the new family dynamics. She used me to get acceptance.
I love my daughter and I am loyal to her. But how do I make it clear that what she did was hurtful, it's wrong and it will backfire eventually?
My ex never helped me during the 12 years I raised her by myself - I was a saint but I did have a rough patch the last year. All of a sudden he and his live in girlfried are parents of the year. It's maddening.
My real dilemma is this: should I throw my hands up and walk away, letting her come to me when she's ready to have an honorable relationship?
Or, do I keep on with the role reveral of the every other weekend dog and pony show?
This is a hard thing for me. People don't judge fathers and mothers by the same standards, and that alone really pisses me off, but it is what it is. How do I gain and maintain some respect and dignity through this, and not totally alienate my precious girl?
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